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01-28-2008, 03:26 PM
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Lost baby after 1/1/08 for whatever reason?
I know most everyone knows my story, but are there any others who have lost their baby after 1/1/08 who want to chat about what happens next? For any who didn't know, our baby died shortly after the new year. We are, of course, devestated and drifting in the sea of unknowns at this point. Just looking for anyone else who might have had birthmom decide to parent, DNA not match, or whatever other reason for losing the child they were adopting. Please feel free to PM if you don't want to share with everyone.
Aileen waiting to see Ariana in Heaven someday
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Guatemala Timeline: Accepted Referral 10/11/07 12/27/07 to 1/3/08: Visit trip-a tiny taste of heaven! 1/7/08: Our sweet baby girl dies in her sleep Domestic Timeline: 4/5/2008: Updated homestudy for Domestic done 4/10/2008: Family profile book done 4/21/2008: Matched with a baby already born! (who happens to be Guatemalan American!) 4/24/2008: Meeting our son for the first time! 5/10/2008: Finally home forever! 2009: Starting the journey again and praying for the budget to fall into place! Benicio's blog: www.keepingthefaithadoption.blogspot.com In memory of Ariana Maria: www.adoptingariana.blogspot.com 
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#2
01-28-2008, 03:31 PM
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I have not recently lost a referral, but I am so sorry to hear your sad news. What is your agency saying? I thought about this situation arising and am curious legally what your options are. I suppose your agency will try to switch you to another country, or wait and see if adoptions start again. Please keep us posted. My heart goes out to you and your family.
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Home forever 3/22/05  Home at 3 1/2Consider adopting an older child!!!
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01-28-2008, 03:42 PM
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Our agency is saying that we can either wait it out to see what happens in Guatemala or we can switch to one of their other countries. For now, we are waiting because our hearts are 100% in Guatemala. We're praying for a miracle and that adoptions will start again soon.
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Guatemala Timeline: Accepted Referral 10/11/07 12/27/07 to 1/3/08: Visit trip-a tiny taste of heaven! 1/7/08: Our sweet baby girl dies in her sleep Domestic Timeline: 4/5/2008: Updated homestudy for Domestic done 4/10/2008: Family profile book done 4/21/2008: Matched with a baby already born! (who happens to be Guatemalan American!) 4/24/2008: Meeting our son for the first time! 5/10/2008: Finally home forever! 2009: Starting the journey again and praying for the budget to fall into place! Benicio's blog: www.keepingthefaithadoption.blogspot.com In memory of Ariana Maria: www.adoptingariana.blogspot.com
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01-28-2008, 03:48 PM
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I believe in miracles. I know everyone is concentrating on inprocess cases but I am hopeful that a few attys have their eye on the future and feel the new law may faclitate adoptions again. A long way off maybe but I'll be watching as well. I think of you often, and I hope you find peace while you wait. B.
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Brian Born 22/8/07 HOME to Ireland 30th JULY 08 
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01-28-2008, 04:04 PM
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I lost a baby once in an adoption. We were adopting from the Soviet Georgia and the baby died two weeks before we were to get him- I understand your pain. We just had to, at that point take a few steps back and catch our breath and grieve. I know that most do not see the delay as a positive thing but maybe in your case it would be a good thing. I say stay where your heart is and you will never go wrong. I will be praying for you and your family to have peace in whatever you decide.
Yvonne 
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1/2007-Signed with agency. 3/10/2007-paperchase, fingerprinting and homestudy done and to agency. 3/24/2007 Brianna was born.  6/1/2007- Recieved I-171 clearance  6/22/2007 Referral accepted  6/2007- Redo name affadavit-sent to Guat with dossier, POA, PAP 7/10/2007-DNA testing and is a match  7/30/2007- received DNA in Guat. 9/3/2007-SWI with birthmother. 9/25/2007- PA  10/1/2007-waiting for SW report and release from FC  10/4/2007- Entered PGN-countdown begins!  10/30/2007- KO from PGN  10/31/2007- easy fix back in PGN  12/7-12/10- Visit trip #1  12/10- Visit trip was wonderful. 12/18/2007 Anxiously awaiting final signature-  1/4/2008 OUT OF PGN!!!!  1/9/2008 birth mother signed off  1/14 BC from San Pedro Pinula 1/16 Orange 1/22 2nd DNA at Labcorp  1/28 DNA at USE 2/4 PINK 2/17 Leaving for pick-up 2/19 USE Appoinmtment 2/21 Home
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01-28-2008, 06:24 PM
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Oh Aileen, I pray for you daily and check your blog often to see if you update as to how you are coping. Praying for God's provision and peace for you and your husband. Blessings, Susie
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http://ferrickfamilypromise.blogspot.com/ Decided to Adopt 5-15-06 Home Study 7-06 Application to Agency 11-06 Finger Prints 12-26-06  Dossier to Agency, January 2007 Girl Wait List, January 2007, #36! Referral of daughter 9-12-07 Visit Trip at 3 weeks of age and POA in Guat 9-21-07 DNA Apt. 9-28-07 DNA to USE 10-9-07 Family Court Apt 10-9-07 USE PA 10-29-07! Family Court Approval 11-5-07 Entered PGN 11-15-07  1-4-08 Still Waiting AMEN, PGN Approved 1-23-08! Alleluia! Final Declaration signed by birthmom and registered in to Mixco Civil Registry for Birth Certificate. 1-28-08 3-24-08 Mixco BC Approved! Thank you Lord!Passport 4-1-08 ORANGE 4-3-08 2nd DNA Taken 4-8-08 DNA at Lab 4-14-08 DNA en route to USE 4-18-08 DNA received at USE! 4-21-08 PINK 4-22-08 Embassy Apt 4-30-08 Home Forever 5-3-08 
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01-28-2008, 06:30 PM
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My heart breaks for you Aileen.
I think of you often.
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Amber It's a girl!!! DOB: 3/29/06 Referral 4/18/06 - TBN - Emma Kate Waiting.......and praying! DNA a positive match! 6/16/06 Pre-Approval 6/27/06 The 1st time I held my daughter!!!!! June 28, 2006 1st visit trip June 27 - July 6 New POA sent out 7/10/06 2nd visit trip Aug. 13-18 Submitted to PGN Sept 12 - OOPS! Not true! Actual date file entered PGN - Oct. 23rd KO'd Nov. 7 - PGN requires new employment letter for my husband - notary's commission expired FINALLY RE-SUBMITTED TO PGN Jan. 4th, 2007 New reviewer assigned to our case Jan. 30, 2007 KO'd AGAIN!!! Feb. 1, 2007 - this is really getting old!! 3rd visit trip Feb. 1-4th Feb. 21st and we still don't know what KO#2 is even for?!?!?!? Guess it wasn't a KO after all!!!!!! Feb. 22 OUT OF PGN!!!!!!!! March 26th 2007 leaving for extended pick up trip! March 29th - Happy 1st Birthday Kate!!  Home forever on April 27th!!!!!!!!!!!!! Praise God!!!
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01-28-2008, 06:50 PM
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I wanted to share that we lost a baby last year on March 16th. We were adopting domestically. We had been on list for several years and got the call. We left to go to the hospital for birth. We stayed with his first mom from Wed night until Thursday night when he was born. We were there for the birth. I knew something was not right with his breathing but honestly thought he would be OK. The next day we made the hardest decision of our lives. We took him off life support. He had a very rare genetic disorder but he was beautiful and you could have never known that he was ill by looking at him. HIs first Mom held him first and then said she wanted his "mommy" to hold him until he passed. That was the hardest thing I have ever been through. My husband I sobbed, prayed, sobbed, prayed. He is buried here with our name. He will forever be in our hearts and we are so thankful for even the short time we had. We decided from there to step back. BUt, we have a dd and we figured if our family was complete, it was. Do what is best for you. There is no cookie cutter directions to follow. God Bless you during your time of grief.
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01-28-2008, 07:09 PM
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Aileen I think of you often and I can't imagine what you are going through.
My situation is totally different than yours and not even able to be compared to yours, but if you are hoping that adoptions will open again and that you will be able to adopt from Guatemala then we do have something in common. We have decided that if Guatemala opens back up we are going to adopt my dd's foster brother. We just made this decision last night and we are hopeful, excited, and scared it may not ever happen. I am going to forward you something that may give you hope of adoptions reopening.
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9/19/06 Our baby girl is born 2/01/07 - Entered PGN  5/15/07 - OUT of Pgn 6/27/07 - Embassy Appointment 6/30/07 - HOME!!!! 11/12/08 Start Foster to Adopt Classes! 5/15/09 Licensed Foster Parent! 8/3/08  baby A placed with us - goal RU - just loving him as long as we can www.everythingmia.blogspot.com
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01-28-2008, 07:56 PM
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Aileen, I continue to pray for you and your family! I am so sorry!!
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