[wadesmama]

Well I've been crying a river of tears. I was just informed that my paperwork that I had resubmitted to the Guat Consulate has been kicked out. Originally the state of ny put the wrong county clerks mane on my paperwork. So I was told to take it back to them and get a new stamp. I did and sent everything to NYC to the consulate. Well when the consulate stamps your paperwork they stamp all documents. Since I had replaced the one piece of paper that was wrong. It invalidated all my paperwork so all my dossier is now no good and I have to start all over again. I have already paid over 20g's and I have to start paying foster care this month and they want me to start over again 7 months later!!! With all that happening in Guat with the PGN I just don't know if I can go through this again. It has already cause stress in my marriage. I'm not like alot of you. I don't want my son when he 15 or 18 months old I wanted a baby thats why I went with Guatemala. Maybe, that makes me awful but I'm not getting any younger. After reading about the PGN last night I didn't think things could get worse but they did. I'm so sick to my stomach. Thanks, for listening to me.

[dmg0703]

Right now, you are probably stressed out with all of the uncertainties since January 1. Guatemalan adoptions have never been for the faint of heart, but what is happening right now would be stressful for anyone

With that being said, you are on a difficult journey, but nothing good ever comes easy. Most of us have had problems or issues with our individual cases - it just plain sucks! Right now, you have some curveballs to deal with until either the US or Guat Govt's decide what will happen. However, at the end of the day, you have a loving and innocent child that is waiting for you The wait just plain stinks but in the end, it will all work out and your child will bring you tons of joy!

Hang in there......

[cbmstephanie]

Don't give up!! We are all very stressed right now and you have every reason to incredibly stressed and frustrated!! It will get better though!! I just know it will!! That little one you are fighting for is worth every ounce of stress and frustration!!

[Bebe2007]

I wish I had words that would make you feel better. The only thing I can say is to hang in there have faith.

My favorite poem is Robert Frost The Road Not Taken.

The poem ends:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

We are on a different road. Keep Faith....
Yvette

[connorsmommy1999]

so why on EARTH would the whole dossier have to be re-done and not JUST the one document that you changed??

I'm so confused. People get KO's for documents all the time...they get them fixed and submit the corrected document. They dont re-do the whole dossier.

???????????

[guatparents2be]

keep the faith. your baby needs you.

it is so hard when things don't work out the way we expect them to...

your son will be your baby, even if he isolder than you anticipated when he comes home. you wouldn't be the first in this position. i hope you'll get some folks responding on this thread about their experiences.

sending lots of good vibes your way for speedy paperwork resolution.

[airstar98]

We are all going through it. I too wanted a baby to raise young and I've been fostering for over a year. She was 8 days old when I got her and yes I have had the blessing to have her young, but I love her so much and just a few days ago, I looked at her and couldn't imagine anyone not wanting the toddlers. They are sooooo much joy. Really, when you finally get your little one home, it may just hit you differently. I wanted to adopt another infant, but with the new rules and just a little change of heart on my part, I'm really wanting a toddler. Well, so sorry you are going through this. Maybe you can take some days off and then just hit it hard on getting your dossier together again. Maybe sign twos of everything. I signed 3s of everything, it cost more to get it all notarized but it saved me many times.

[LJR1974]

We were expecting a baby too... but we don't have a choice anymore.

I won't tell you what to do. This process is for the birds.

[TerriBB]

We wanted a baby too - but alas, when we finally got our pink slip, our 8 day old referral was 1 year old.

The stress that you are going through is amazing, but you will survive and I pray that your baby will be home soon. Each night I pray for all of you waiting. Please know that there are hundreds of families praying for you all.

[kzwief]

Hang in there. Your baby WILL come home. This entire process can be so frustrating and heart breaking one day, then completely exciting and elating a few days later. Feel free to vent and let us know how you are doing any time you feel like it. We are all here for you!

[jpeel99]

I know that you are frustrated, but if you gave up, what happens to your child then?


Your baby is going to grow up and grow up very very fast, whether he/she's home or not.

Hang in there!!!!

[swjp]

Hi wadesmama, I am so sad and sorry! I also don't understand why the whole dossier would have to be redone--so wrong and unfair.

I hope that everything gets sorted out, and you and the rest of use will get to bring these children home very soon.

[alreadylove2005]

(((((((hugs)))))))))))))))

I remember being at a point similar to what you describe. It's the proverbial "straw that broke the camel's back" and yours is a heavy straw.

I don't know if it will help you, but I eventually gave up looking for fair or common sense or caring in the process and just mindlessly did whatever "they" told me to do. I would only frustrate myself when I tried to argue or make sense of something senseless. There are a billion steps you have to go through, and there are lots of times when you take one step forward and many more backward.

Give yourself a pat on the back - you've already gone through alot and paid alot of hard earned money. Don't be hard on yourself and if you need a few minutes of rest before you tackle the next mountain take it - even if it's only a cry and a cup of tea with a friend.

Good luck.....I hope you get back you're fighting spirit and hang in there.

[shely514]

Well,l I can sorta feel your pain right now but haven't been in the process long. I just faxed all of our dossier to our agency this am, thinking we were DONE. Nope, every doc has to be redone except two of them for various reasons. Then my SW has decided to take another two weeks off on holiday so my revised Guat homestudy is just sitting! I told the agency and they said "that is not good". What does that mean? Are we not ok now? Not to mention got called back to my teaching position and start Monday a.m. So, stress, what stress? I really hate paper right now!

[LadyTink]

I am so sorry.