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Old 10-04-2007, 08:48 PM
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so sad....

Hi everyone... I think I've finally done everything I can regarding this recent Guatemala situation. I've been so "busy" that I've kept my mind off it it.

Now I'm in "What do I do mode" and it's kicking in... and I'm so sad.... I feel so hopeless and helpless about this situation..

I have so much invested in this little boy.... even w/o having met him. It is truly unbearable to think that he might not come home.... these words cannot truly describe how empty I feel right now....

I'm just soooo sad.... right now... I'm not sure I've ever felt so sad in my entire life....
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Old 10-04-2007, 10:16 PM
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No matter what, this baby is part of your life forever, he is in your heart and thoughts for all eternity.

My husband and I have a baby who was relinquished then abandoned and we are deadly determined that not matter what support we get from the US or how illegally Berger acts we will follow this child to the ends of the earth, we have visited with him several times, he recognises us and we love him, love knows no bounds, not ridiculous government policy or illegal actions by presidents or government departments. Love may not reunite us in this life but we feel he will always know of us, and that we are there fighting for him, and we will not give up no matter what happens in the next few weeks. Every child deserves someone in their corner and we are steadfastly in his- so deep breathe and hang tight. Your baby is there and needs you to be positive and fight for his homecoming.

Know I am here and will be positive when ever those dark clouds overcome you or anyone else.

Change happens when a few brave people like us (everyone on this board and friends and family) step forward and show our strength, we are mother and father lions and hear us roar! (Not meant to be corny we really at this point need to roar and get the truth of our babies situations out there!!!)
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Old 10-05-2007, 01:01 AM
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I just had to respond to this post, it brought back so many emotions. I know exactly how you are feeling but for me it was x 2. I was caught up in the 2003 Guatemala side of the Hague. As long as I live I will never forget that summer of how I seriously doubted that the photo's of the two beautiful little boys would ever really be mine. I felt so helpless but I never lost hope and you must not either.

The Guatamela attornies aren't going to take this lying down. They didn't then and they won't now!

I'll never forget the email that I opened that September 03 morning from my agency it simply read in big bold letters.
They're coming home. And after all the fighting and worrying they in fact did!!

Don't give up hope. It's certainly not over yet.

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Old 10-05-2007, 03:38 AM
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Give it to God.....He is bigger than all of this.

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Old 10-05-2007, 05:22 AM
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I am so sorry. I also keep myself sane by "doing" and "obsessing" and when there is nothing to do to move things forward, I feel helpless and desperate.

Try to be good to yourself. Keep yourself informed. Study something. Keep growing. Come here for support.
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9/25 a princess is born
10/2 Homestudy Application and Police fingerprints
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11/7 Homestudy Visit
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2/7/07 POA
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3/?/07 DNA came back 96.55%
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4/5 DNA comes back 99.2% - told there is a mutation and yet another sample is taken
4/6 My beautiful mother passes into eternity
4/18 DNA 99.9%
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5/30 DNA 99.9% from lab US embassy accepts
6/23-6/30 Visit trip!
7/23 PA!!!
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August KO
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10/29 Going to foster
11/5 Out of PGN!!!!
11/8 Final b-mom sign off
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Old 10-05-2007, 05:36 AM
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There are thousands of people fighting for these kids - praying for these kids - including your son. Keep your hope alive and don't lay down and give up. My boys are home, but I will forever advocate for the babies and children who are waiting for forever families.
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Old 10-05-2007, 05:50 AM
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I'm right there with you, I can't imagine my baby girl not coming home!
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It's a girl born 2-27-07
referral 3-07-2007
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Family Court 4-09-07?
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KO 9-5-07
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Happy 1st Birthday Sweet Baby girl! 2-27-08
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Old 10-05-2007, 06:02 AM
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I'm right there with you, my heart feels like it is coming out of my chest. I feel the same as 6 years ago when my 17-year old son was killed in a car accident; I just cannot bear to lose another child. Ana has brought the first real joy into my life in so long. So, I am prepared to fight for her as long as it takes. We all have to fight, they are "our children" no matter what the governments say. I began taking Spanish lessons 3 weeks ago, so I am going to concentrate on that even harder as I feel closer to Ana when speaking her language. If you believe in God or any higher power, now is the time to pray.
"Trust in the Lord, and do good; dwell in the land, and feed on his faithfulness. Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart."
And never give up!!
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Old 10-05-2007, 06:15 AM
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Cheryl,
I know exactly what you are feeling. We are all sad and we are all working to get the babies home, I feel in my heart of hearts that they will come home, I just can't imagine the opposite. Hang in there for sweet Cole.
When I get sad I look at Owen's beautiful face...it's just full of innocence, hope and love, so I begin to feel like a Mom and pick up and fight for my son.
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07/30/07 Entered PGN without PA
08/17/07 PA
08/24/07 Kicked out of PGN
9/18/07 Resubmitted to PGN with PA
10/2/07 K/O, for NO PA again! Back in that same day!; on 2nd reviewers desk.
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Old 10-05-2007, 06:18 AM
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I am so, so sorry. This whole adoption journey is a roller coaster of ups and downs, some worse than others.
You have done more single-handedly in getting the website up and organized, and spear heading the writing/calling campaign for all the other adoptive parents than most will do in a lifetime! Be proud of your efforts to bring your son home...there is no more you could have done to help, so now put it in God's hands, and let your forum friends support you through it.
Praying for good news for you, your son, and everyone else on this forum in process....

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Old 10-05-2007, 06:31 AM
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Don't be discouraged. Hope is always there,,don't lose it! God will make a way!
Praying for you all the babies who are in process!
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Old 10-05-2007, 09:43 AM
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All I have is my faith in GOD I keep telling myself GOD would not have brought us to this place in our lives and brought us the precious baby girl only to take her away.
She is our daughter and she is coming home.
Prayer is all we have, look at all God has done. He will get us through this.
My husband keeps saying "I will worry until she is home" we all feel like that.
We just have to have faith that this will work out the meeting tomorrow with ADA and the attorneys and agency reps will hopefully tell us something and then Tuesday we will hear the news we want to hear.
HUGS and PRAYERS
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Old 10-05-2007, 09:47 AM
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Thank you all so much....
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