[Yelena]

Juliana's been home almost a year. June 1st is our family day, and it's unbelievable that a year has gone by already!!

I love her so much, and I'm more than ready to give her a sibling and give myself another child to love and adore. DH is not ready and never will be -- he's 54 and already has 3 daughters, nearly grown, from his first marriage. So Juliana does have 3 sisters, but they are a full generation older than she is, and they don't live with us. For all intents and purposes, Juliana's an only child.

The only chance (and it's a very, very slim chance) that DH would even remotely consider adopting again would be if Juliana's birth mom were to relinquish another child. I feel just awful and ashamed for hoping such a thing! How can I wish for Juliana's birth mom to have to go through this again!? But the truth is, I'm hoping to get the call that she's pregnant and wants to place her child with Juliana's new family.

Anyone else hoping for that call?

[CEB]

Kind of with you there.

Curtis has been home just over 3 months and it is so amazingly wonderful! We initially thought he would be our one and only (and that may still be the case) but that was before we knew how good it is for us being parents, and it would be nice for Curtis to have more than his cousin(s) around his age to grow up with. We have decided that we will think about it in another year - we really would want to stay with Guat but that depends on what happens in 08- we are (and DH in particular is) not comfortable starting now. However, if Curtis' bmom was expecting, I think we would adjust our timeframe pretty quickly so....yes.

[drport]

Hello old pal :-) I am right there with you girl! I think about that quite often. DH is all done with the idea or more kiddos. I think this would be the only way he would even remotely consider. Lovin up the ones we have though

Hugs,
Diana

[daynesmom]

We definately want to have more and definately hope to adopt from Guate again. I wish all the time that we would get "that call". I can't imagine her having to go through that again, but if she does - I'm here with my arms out waiting!

[tsozio]

My baby isn't even home yet and I think about that call sometimes. I don't really know financially how we would do it, but I just know we would make it work. I think it would be so neat for my DD to have a bio sibling who shares her birthcountry. But, at the same time, I also know that if her birthmom doesn't have to go through it again then it's probably better for her. If she ever does, though, I'll be waiting.

[KELLYZSKY]

We were going to start the paperchase in a few weeks and I told DH yesterday that I can't do it because of "that call", I just can't . Even if that call never comes. I could totally love a non-bio sibling but then I would also taske on their prospective siblings too.Does that make me SELFISH?????????? I don't know I just know that my heart tells me to wait. I too am so in love with my daughter and I want her to have a sibling or siblings but my darn heart says NOT NOW.....WAIT WAIT ...JUST A LITTLE LONGER. sorry so long but this has been going on in my head for weeks. I really do hope she gets pregnant again and I don't want her birthmom to hurt again buit I am human . Thanks for letting me lay it all out there and vednt. ~Kelly

[Brie Brock]

I secretly hoped that we'd get the call for 2 yrs...when it never happened. We went ahead an adopted another child from Guatemala...my two Guatemalan daughters are so close and love each other so much. They have such a close bond. I say go ahead and adopt again if you really want a sibling for your daughter. I think there are several kids waiting right now.
Good luck,

Brie

[amylynn3]

Hi there friend!

I think about that often also...but, some health issues our biomom was experiencing after the birth of our son will probably prevent that from ever happening.

So, we are on our way to bringing home a little girl! We are very excited to be adding to our family, and who knows, some day maybe that call will come...for us and for your family!

[newnan]

so funny..we wish for this too....

[ddhuab]

Reading the social worker's report made me so sad for our daughter's birthmom and her family. I wouldn't want her to have to go through this again. She is a minor, and I am hoping she finished school and is going on to college.

I would love to hear if my dd has birth siblings eventually, and would love to keep in touch with her birthfamily, but, unfortunately, I am afraid birthmother will choose to put everything behind her and not contact us.

I would love to adopt another child, but am not sure yet if we will be able to or not.

I do understand others' feelings, though. It is a nice fantasy, that one might get "the call" and have another baby kind of fall into your family.

We would probobly have to say yes to a biosibling, if it came about, but I don't even really think about it as a possibility for us.

D.

[Yelena]

Originally Posted by Brie Brock

I say go ahead and adopt again if you really want a sibling for your daughter.

Oh believe me, I'm totally ready, willing and able to adopt another child -- I don't care where his/her DNA comes from! It's DH who's holding us back. He doesn't want any more kids PERIOD. He's done (and after 4 kids, I really can't blame him). However, that's what he said after his 2nd daughter was born, and he still had 2 more!

I really think the only way he could possibly be swayed is if we found out Juliana had a sibling out there. I don't think he would deny her the opportunity of being raised with her bio sibling if that were to become a real situation. Unfortunately, he just doesn't see it the same way with any other child.

Thanks for your replies and honesty, everyone! It always feels good to know I'm not the only one.

And HI DIANA! Good to "see" you again.

[Mariais5]

I really thought about it a lot until we accepted Sofie's referral... I know that our family is now complete, so it would be a little heart breaking to get that call now.. I do hope that if our children's birthmoms place other children that we are able to keep in contact..

[amymole36]

I certainly wasn't hoping for the call...but got it on Thursday and we have begun the paperchase once again!!! The girls are less than a year apart...am I nuts or what???? Oh well...I'm hoping they'll have a special bond...besides they have an AWESOME 4 yr. old big brother that will watch out for them!!! It is very exciting/scary at the same time!!!

[mksilvermoon]

not me

i would not wish that on her again

MK

[PackGirl]

We are just finishing up the process for E's biological brother. They are 11 months apart and she made an adoption plan while we were actually picking up E. Although we said yes right away and do not regret our decision, I do regret the fact that she has now had to place two of her children with me.

I love my boys with all my being, but I cannot imagine the pain, sorrow, and other feelings that has to go along with relinquishing your child.

I also understand why someone would want a biological connection for their children. I'm not saying that is a bad thing to want. However I dont think it is something that should be taken lightly. It's a tragedy for so many reasons that many of our children's moms are having to relinquish multiple children.

I'm sorry to be such a downer on this thread...but this is how I feel.