[ManyTimesBlessed]

My prayer group is going on a 3 day (2 nights, 3 days) retreat in February. We expect that both of the kids will have been home for 2 months or more by the time the retreat comes. How would it affect Jayden and Lillian's attachment for me to go? DH would be with them the whole time I was gone, btw.

I would like to go to the retreat because I think it would be encouraging, but I don't want to go at the expense of my kids attachment.

What do you guys think?

[JohnnaMJH]

I think you may not know until the time, or closer to it. W/my older son, he had been home six month and I chose to forgo a retreat type thing because of his issues. My younger son has had a much easier transition and although I didn't go away that soon, I would've felt pretty comfortable doing it, especially if dh would be the caregiver.

I wouldn't rule it out, but just be open to the fact that once they are home and the time comes, you may choose not to go depending on how they are doing. Hopefully you can go! I know what you mean, a retreat is always such a good refresher!

[Mandy4President]

I don't have experience but Johnna makes a good point. It probably really depends onthe child. Also, having dh watching them is so much better than a babysitter, and I think youwould be able to get away for a couple of days.

[sassycindy]

Yeah--i agree with the other posts. it's hard to say how you and your husband will feel after the kids are home.

But I also personally don't think that a few days away will be detrimental to anyone's attachment--if attachment were that fragile, no one could ever even go to work or out to dinner!