[JohnnaMJH]

Oh she is just so beautiful. I am so sorry. I hope that things turn around soon and that you have peace.

[dsjjwilson]

Laura.... the God I worship would not put a desire in your heart to be a mother and not fulfill that. Take time to think, be kind to yourself, don't give up hope. I am thinking of you!

[SchnauzerMom]

I am so sorry for you and your DH! I hope there is a change in the birthmother's heart to come back and complete Sabrina's adoption. She is such a beautiful little girl! I agree with others--can you start another adoption wile pursuing Sabrina's adoption?

We have dealt with infertility and are only in our early 30s, but it was looking impossible for us to have children as well (2 IVFs and the doctors had no clue what was wrong). I understand how desperately you want a child.

We started adopting one baby, but are now going in debt to adopt two babies. We had some frustrations with the process before referral, and decided we just wanted to go ahead and adopt 2 now and not have to deal with this in another 1-2 years, when we planned to have saved more towards a 2nd adoption. So now we are going to be pinching pennies for a few years, but our home will be filled with 2 bundles of joy and that is all we've ever wanted. In another 3-4 years, we will look at adopting again for #3 or #3 & 4.

Trust me, if you look hard enough, you can find a way to make this happen! Good luck and God bless!

[carrie2adopt]

Laura...maybe you don't realize it but you already ARE a mother. You love and care for your daughter, and will do anything for her, even if it means providing for her from another country...that's being a mom.

I also agree with what others have posted, why not consider adopting a brother or sister for Sabrina while pursuing the abandonment. You will be a mom to two children that way and with hope and prayer and maybe a little luck, someday, Sabrina and her sibling may meet and live under one roof. And if not, she will know that she has a family who loves her very much in the US.

Sending you prayers.

[starryeyes]

Laura,

Thank you for the update. I don't know what to say, except please don't give up on your dream of being a mother. You will be a great mother to a very lucky baby! Please know that we are here for you and are sad in our hearts for and with you.

Take care - you are in many thoughts and prayers.

[DeeVee]

Oh, Laura, I am so, so sorry you are going through this. I pray that God will comfort you and give you strength through all of this.

Please don't say that you think you aren't meant to be a mom. Give this to God to handle -- it's too big for you all alone.

(((hugs))).

[lcarroll]

Laura,
We will keep you and your family in our prayers. I am so sorry that you are going through this and that it is making you doubt your potential as a mother. I'm sure you will make a fine mother someday in the future. No one knows the path that is set and some have a harder path than others. Don't lose hope.

[mommywannabee]

Laura, please don't feel that you're not supposed to be a mother. I know it's easy for me to say, but I know in my heart that you are one of the kindest people in the world and you DO deserve to have a child in your life!

I will continue to pray about Sabrina's birth mother. I will pray that she leaves the area she's in and come to a place that is safe. Can't they have her sent back - maybe you could pay for her taxi or something?

I'm not sure how it all works, but I do want you to know that you will be in my daily prayers!

Please don't feel like you shouldn't be a mom...because you should...you're too nice!

[Guatmom2006]

Oh Laura, I am praying for you. This is everyone's worst fear. I don't know the details, but as long as they know where the bmom is, I pray there's a chance they can get her out. I'm assuming either they think the abandonment can't go through because they won't be able to prove she really abandoned her because she is in distress and in danger, or the attorney doesn't want to continue to provide for her. I'm really hoping the attorney has better ethical practices than that. Whatever the circumstances, you ARE a mother. IF you are unable to get Sabrina home, then know that God has another plan for you and your husband. God has bigger plans for us than our minds can fathom...and like some others have said, maybe another referral while still working on getting Sabrina home IS His plan. Maybe it was His plan all along to bless you twice and there is another child who was born, or has yet to be born, who is supposed to be yours. Hang on sweetie. That beautiful child, and perhaps another child need you to be strong.

[tybeemuffin]

Laura,

My heart breaks for you. My thoughs and prayers are with you and your family.

[CashCrew]

Oh Laura I'm sitting here crying through your whole story. I cannot imagine. I am praying so hard for you all. I want so badly for your sweet angel to come home to you. You WILL be a mother. Please don't give up on that. You are already a mother to Sabrina regardless of how this works out. {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}

[Travelkid]

My heart is just breaking for you Laura. Please give yourself time to heal and be kind to yourself. Yes, you are meant to be a mother. I too am 40, no chance of biological children and this is my first - know that we when we have the love in our hearts we are meant to be mothers. I am praying for you and your family. Many, many hugs to you

[TheresaB]

I am so very sorry this is happening, but I can't say enough to listen to what the other ladies are saying! You ARE a mother, and your daughter is absolutely beautiful!! She will value you more and more when she comes home for standing by her and waiting for her. I pray that her ** understands that she's doing the best thing for this child and will continue on with the adoption. God will watch out for you, He really will, just trust. Sometimes it is hard (believe me, I know), but trust, and He will show you.

Is there a way you could start with the other referral? Maybe 2 is what is in your future as well???

[PabloandCarlosMama]

This is so heartbreaking. I can't imagine what you and your husband are going through, and words seem inadequate. I am praying for you and your family, and that you will come through this uncertain, dark time, and get clarity when the time is right.

[Hopingsoon]

Laura, I'm so very sorry to read this. I'll keep you and Sabrina in my prayers.