[wertygirl]

I was just wondering how common it was to be in contact directly with the foster family and to keep in touch. The way I see it, they're part of Liliana's family and so ours as well so I would like to develop a long term relationship with them with visits and such, but I don't know how often that happens. Do you have a relationship with the foster family?

[Mandy4President]

My foster mom has emailed me twice. I absolutely love her, she is one of my favorite people. I don't know if she feels the same way about me - lol- but she did buy me a gift when I was down there, which I will treasure like crazy. I love our foster family.

[ej-momtobe]

We discussed this with the foster family on our last 2 visit trips. They want to keep in touch, and want us to bring Andres to visit in a few years...(which we very much want to do).

[tinaedmond]

Our daughter has been home for two and a half years and we have a phenomenal relationship with her foster family. So much so, we are going to visit them for the second time since our daughter came home, in just 24 days (can you tell I'm excited?)

I am with you, these people are special to us, we consider them part of our family. We are doubly blessed to have not only our daughter, but them as well!

Tina

[Travelkid]

From what I have read other site, many families keep in touch with the FM. If nothing else, I think the yearly photo updates are wonderful too. They are so instrumental in our child's lives, I agree that we need to keep the contact for them and our child.

[jk22]

We have a very close relationship with our
F-family. When we visited, we got to go to their home and spent several days with them going to markets and Antigua. They are super sweet and we love them very much. We talk to them by phone about twice per week, which is a good thing because I dont know how we would get thru this nightmare without that!!!

[saranbr]

Yes, but not as others have described. We've sent update pictures a couple times and she wrote us once. I would love to visit her when we visit our son but don't know how all that will work out if at all.

[coatess1]

I don't even know her name yet! But I think she is a very special, loving, caring woman.
Today I received my DNA results. My son is wearing one of the outfits that I sent to him! I believe that the FM put it on him knowing I would get the picture.
We are connecting already. I hope we will establish a relationship with her.

[doghouse]

In my spare time, I have sent a few emails to the Foster mom's daugher. It was good to get a little extra medical history of our baby. I was saddened to learn how much they missed our baby though, how they couldn't sleep the first night she was gone. I also don't think they really understand Engligh all that well and my emails were rather wordy.

Some people are afraid to have contact with the foster family after the adoption because they are afraid of being put in the position of being asked for money.

[Guatmom2006]

We plan to keep in touch as well. We love her and we know she loves our son to death. He spent 8 months...and counting of his life with her and we want to have that connection for him as he gets older. We also think she will be a wonderful resource for us as far as learning and retaining his heritage, which we can try to do ourselves, but nothing close to what she can provide for him.

[tiffanygilbert]

My husband and I have a great relationship with our son's foster family. We met the foster mother when we went on our first visit when our son was just a little over 3 months old. At the end of our visit when she came to pick him up she brought a short letter in English asking us if we had e-mail and would we keep in touch with her. We keep in regualr contact with her via e-mail and telephone. We had also told her during our 1st visit that we had picked the name "Carson" for our son so she and her family have been calling him Carson since he was 3 months old. Since our 1st visit we have made 2 additional visits. During the 2nd and 3rd visits she would send us an e-mail (knowing I had our laptop in our hotel room) saying she hoped we were having a great time with the baby. She also lets us know each month when his next Dr's appt is and that he is doing well. His foster mother is in her mid-forties and our son is her first foster child so we think he has an extra special place in her heart. It's great having that contact with her while in-process. As you can see from our timeline we have made multiple visits. As soon as I know the dates that we are going for a visit I call her so that she has as much notice as possible that we are coming. I strongly encourage anyone to have as close of a relationship as you can (and your agency will allow) with your child's foster family! They are so special in our childrens lives!!
Just my 2 cents!

[eniseday]

We've sent a letter and a ton of pictures. The foster mom and dad both wrote us a letter and sent us a picture of Shawn we had never seen before. We still need to get the letters translated. We try to send pictures at least twice a year.

[cbpwife]

My son has only been home 7 weeks, but I hope we can continue a relationship with the foster family. They are wonderful people and gave our son so much care and love. They have an adopted son who is one year older than my son (long story), so I want to continue to send thing for him as he grows.

[mombyfaith]

Absolutely!
Our foster family loved and cared for Chloe until she was 14 mos old. I called them every few weeks and send them a letter with 10 to 12 pictures every month. Chloe's foster sister speaks a little english and she always tells me they always always wait for my calls everyday. It gives them peace of mind knowing that Chloe is happy in her new home.
These precious people are now a part of our family.

[bjmom]

Juliana's foster parents sent her a birthday card w/a beautiful note which we treasure. We sent them pictures at Christmas and a few months ago sent pictures and an update to Guatemala w/a family from our agency whose children were in their care. Juliana had wonderful, loving foster parents, and we are thankful that they gave her such a good start in life.