[theyoungwoman]

I am starting to feel the need for another child, I always wanted Abigail to have a sibling close to her age (my sisters were 5 yrs and 11yrs apart from me). Anyway with the thought of adopting again there is excitment, but also fear. The death of our first referral, the luck of getting Abigail home so early, remembering counting every day with tears in my eyes for her to be home. But then I also remember our wonderful pick up trip, the great people who cared for Abigail and the love I get from her. My husband says whatever is fine. He loves us so and wants us to be happy. I also thought about trying to concieve again but I refuse to be treated and made to feel like a lab rat, plus I am worried how Abigail would feel if we did concieve. She grew in my heart and I want her to feel special. So I am coming to all of you with your opinions. You brought me sanity before. I hope to find the right path now.

[Mindybeth6]

I can completely understand the desire for you to want a sibling for your daughter. I know for us that was one of the reasons we decided to adopt...so that our son could have a sibling. I too remember the lab rat feeling. I went through so much after we had Alec (our miracle baby from God) and it was horrible. I think it was far more painful then this adoption. I say go for it. THe process is long...the heartache is there....but I am already looking forward to the day when we are a complete family and we can all be together. And I know that day will come...and I will be thanking GOd for the incredible blessing of my daughter...and of course my son. Good luck in your decision. Being a "mom" is the most wonderful gift in the world...and if DH is supportive...then so it...and do it NOW before the Hague issues start arrising.
Much Llove,

[CashCrew]

Oh I definitely say go for it! I think a sibling is the best gift you could ever give your child. They will be there for each other long after we can be ourselves. I cannot imagine my children not having each other...they share a WONDERFUL bond.

[kacmom1]

I agree! It is so heartwarming to see how much my kids all love each other. They'll be the best of friends forever and they'll have a very special loving bond that will always connect them and keep them close to each other.

Good luck in your decision!

[murk]

That's why we decided to adopt two at once. They will always have each other and, because of DH's and my age, we didn't want to go through this all again.

Good luck with your decision!

[fochtru]

I have not even sent my dossier and I am already thinking about adopting a second child for the very same reason. I will be an older, single mom and I want my child to have a sibling.

[ROSEMARIE DUGGAN]

Hi,
I just wanted to share my experience with you..My darling daughter is 9 1/2 yrs old..I am adopting 2nd time...my darling son is 9 1/2 mos old...it is never too late to have a sibling..you should go for it!! My two sisters & I are 9 yrs & 11 yrs apart & we are extremely close!! they both live in 2 different states, but we all speak to each other almost every single day. I look up to them, like they are my mother's & best friends!! I especially feel even closer to them after our Mom died in 1992..I am the baby of 6 children.. I am 41 yrs old My eldest sister is 52, 2nd sister is 50..My brothers & I are also close, eldest is 56, 2nd is 47, 3rd is deceased he would be 45..very sad died at young age of 42 (heart)..I know not all families are close, but I am from a big Italian close knit family, & I can tell you..I treasure my siblings, as we get older, it is lonely after your parents are gone,siblings is all you have left of your parents. I say do it before next yr...the Hague will be a problem if you wait too long!! Best wishes in whatever you decide. Take care & God Bless.

Rosemarie

[Mary Mulcahy]

I would telll you that if you have the funds, do it.
WHile its not always easy, I found that there is always a special relationship between siblings. I adopted Ricco because I grew up with three sisters and could not bear for Danny to be an only child. As a single parent, its hard sometimes, but its also good to know that they will always have each other.

I say go for it and soon with Hague who knows what will happen.
Mary