[gibbs7263]

I am a long way from actually getting our baby boy, but we are telling our families that we are adopting from Guatemala. We have a large Guat population in our area and the community is not very positive. Most ourour family members FLIPPED out! Anyone else have this experiece?

Holly

[Mandy4President]

Yes. My inlaws didn't talk to me for three months. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk.

[WesieMom]

I'm with Mandy on this. My In-laws didn't take it so well. Of course you know it was all MY idea and hubby had nothing to do with it. ::eyeroll::
PM me if you need to talk as well.
Hugs,

[Mandy4President]

Originally Posted by WesieMom

I'm with Mandy on this. My In-laws didn't take it so well. Of course you know it was all MY idea and hubby had nothing to do with it. ::eyeroll::
PM me if you need to talk as well.
Hugs,

OMGosh!?! Might we have the same MIL?

I know, what were we thinking right? I mean I told my dh (as I had him down on the ground bending his arm, knee in his back, whip in hand) that he'd better do it or he'd pay the price!

[WesieMom]

I hear ya! She just couldn't believe that I "TALKED HIM IN TO IT" Even MADE him sign the papers! If truth me told, I told him if he didn't sign them he wouldn't get no move Loving..haha!

[gwenrenee007]

Our families response was sort of positive, but not really!! We got the usual we will love them no matter what if they are purple, blue, white, AA, or dark skinned. We told them that it wasn't really an option for them not to her and if they show any racist views then we will cut off all contact. Then my lovely (ignorant) FIL asked if they would be Mexican!!! I really didn't know what to say but I had access to a computer and we had a geography lesson. Then of course he had to make the comment when I asked if it would make a difference to them if they were Mexican he said, "oh, of course not." The funniest thing to me is that step MIL sends us those chain emails and one of them was about how English should be the ONLY language sponken in the US and we shouldn't have to accomodate the "Spanish" speaking people. I flipped out and asked her in a not so nice way to delete us from her email list.
Also your famalies views may change once you get a refferal. That is what everyone says on here so I hope it will help your situation to put a little precious face on the whole issue.

[patti Daniels]

My in-laws and my mother and dad were thrilled when we adopted. My father in-law had been a POWin Germany. Our daughter was born in the USA and my father in-law would tease us and say. "she is German." Well, after we met her bfamily, we did find out she is actually Russian. Her agrandparents loved her. I had a graduation picture made with pictures of her grandparents holding her as a baby up in the sky. All of my daughter's agrandparents have died. I had precious memories printed above the picture.

[CashCrew]

Yeah we got that from the inlaws (they're better about it now) but my parents just ignore the situation all together (see my recent thread "Is It Too Much To Ask?"). My inlaws INSISTED it was a scam and said we were wasting our money to spend so much on an unwanted baby...that money should be going toward college and retirement. And why can't we just "sponsor" children over "there" like they do....$30 a month and they have an education and food! @@ We have heard it all from them. They finally stopped when I flipped and now they're being much more supportive.

[KJones5]

Hey, wait a minute, I've got the same MIL too!!!! She was very unsupportive and sure to tell us every adoption horor story she's every heard. Our son has been home 8 months (he's her 1st grandchild and probably last) and she still isn't very loving with him. Her loss. She's made a lot of progress but apparently doesn't want to be a storybook Grandma.

My mom, on the other hand, was so excited when we told her we adoptiong. In fact, she went with us to visit him.

[Mommy2twins]

It was actually my family. My brother and his wife and my mom and step dad. I thought that my mom would be supportive. She brought over clothes and even met us at the airport when we came home. But now that they are home, she hardly calls and has only come out to visit once in over 6 weeks. I get the occasional email at 10:30PM from her asking how things are going but when I reply that I could really use some help she just ignores it or says something about needing to find a good baby-sitter. I was just telling my DH this morning that my next reply to her will be "time - out mother, until you change or I accept that you're a louse of a mother/grnadmother I don't care to hear from you anymore, I'll call you". I couldn't care less about my brother, I knew he was racest long ago.

[gibbs7263]

I too was told to save for college for my 4yr. What a waste of money I was told.

[CashCrew]

gibbs my comeback (not sure if it even mattered) was that I would pay a LOT more than $30k for my children that I have now, so $30k doesn't seem too much to me. Just my daugther's 8 day stay in the NICU after she was born was $40k and we didn't even blink an eye...it was necessary and there was nothing that could be done to prevent it. I asked them how much they would pay right now if one of my kids needed it....they're PRICELESS...no amount of money would be too much for them. It was much easier for them to see when I turned it around and made them think about their biological grandchildren and their "worth". GOOD LUCK! They still aren't all peaches and cream about it, but they aren't throwing out negative comments like they were....at least for now. :/

[gibbs7263]

I totally agree with you on the price. My nephew spent 1 week in the NICU. About 30K and yea it really doesn't matter what the price you would for the kids you love.........We will worry about college later

[2forus]

Our families were pretty supportive. Some of them were definately supprized and most wanted to know why not domestic. We only had one negative response from my husband's cousin and best friend. We ended up cutting all ties with him for awhile. He broke down when another family member asked him about it. Since then we've seen him a few times and he asks questions and is positive. Everyone's different. I figure if someone's not going to be supportive then we don't need them in our lives.

[JillnChris]

Originally Posted by gwenrenee007

Our families response was sort of positive, but not really!! We got the usual we will love them no matter what if they are purple, blue, white, AA, or dark skinned. We told them that it wasn't really an option for them not to her and if they show any racist views then we will cut off all contact. Then my lovely (ignorant) FIL asked if they would be Mexican!!! I really didn't know what to say but I had access to a computer and we had a geography lesson. Then of course he had to make the comment when I asked if it would make a difference to them if they were Mexican he said, "oh, of course not." The funniest thing to me is that step MIL sends us those chain emails and one of them was about how English should be the ONLY language sponken in the US and we shouldn't have to accomodate the "Spanish" speaking people. I flipped out and asked her in a not so nice way to delete us from her email list.
Also your famalies views may change once you get a refferal. That is what everyone says on here so I hope it will help your situation to put a little precious face on the whole issue.

Too funny, when I told one of my sisters we were adopting a girl from Guatemala she said "So she'll be Mexican?" I don't know what we would do without all this comedy.