frustrated and thinking of quiting

shaynadam · #1 07-10-2006, 04:34 PM

I understand there were only around 20 cases with previos released today. PGN says they will be releasing approved ones tomorrow but please noone hold their breath. I would hate to have to give someone CPR because they are holding their breath for PGN. I am talking to my DH tonight to see if we are going to continue the wiat, I am ready to quit..it is up to him....

lockharts · #2 07-10-2006, 04:37 PM

Don't quit... You are not alone.. I have been hanging on for almost TWO YEARS... These kids need us.. You can't quit... Who will stand strong for that baby??? Who will give it a loving home? Who will help it grow and learn...
You have to hang on.. Honest.. You are not alone. Pray, Pray and Pray some more.... Good luck. God bless.

dspakowsky · #3 07-10-2006, 04:40 PM

May I ask what your time line is like? I hope you don't quit! It's tough - that's no lie. I don't know if you already have children at home, but once they're here it's soooooooooooooo worth it!!!

shaynadam · #4 07-10-2006, 04:44 PM

My timeline is not half as bad as some people but I am afraid it will get there. I don't handle stress real well and I well like I am taking this out on other friends and family. My DH said he is going to get me an apartment until this is over.....now that is stressed

amylynn3 · #5 07-10-2006, 04:45 PM

Oh Shay, I have been having these same thoughts for the last few weeks. Fortunately, my dh has lifted me up and made me realize we can't walk away from our sweet little boy. You can't walk away from your little one...hold on for your child.

Your family will be in my prayers.

LadyTink · #6 07-10-2006, 04:48 PM

Don't give up, Shay!! I know it sometimes seems like this process will never end, but you have to believe that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I will be praying for you!!

becky716 · #7 07-10-2006, 04:49 PM

Don't give up! You can do this! We are here to support you!
You and your family are in my prayers!

DD Amasa · #8 07-10-2006, 04:50 PM

I don't think we have it any worse than anyone else trying to adopt. I know couples adopting from China who have been waiting for over a year for a referral. I know a couple who took three years for a successful domestic adoption. There are parents getting stuck in Khazakstan for two months or longer, the Ukraine stopped all referrals for a long time (if they even started up again) and parents who want to adopt from Russia are giving up and thinking of Guatemala. It's not an easy process. It's frustrating and discouraging. But if you're here, you must think a child is worth whatever hardship you go through to bring him home.

Maybe you just need a break from the boards. There are lots of negative rumors constantly being thrown around which I think bring us all down.

braedensmommy · #9 07-10-2006, 04:53 PM

Shay,

You CANNOT give up!!!!!!!!!!! Your little one needs you. It sucks... I KNOW, but it will be over soon.

Megan

merkley3 · #10 07-10-2006, 04:53 PM

Hi Shay,

I don't know the particulars of your adoption journey, but don't give up. I also am very impatient, my mind is consumed with the thought of bringing our baby home, my family is in an uproar- and the daily "Have you heard anything?" from EVERYONE is enough to make me want to SCREAM.

I just keep watching the stories, like, "home 4 weeks today", or "one year ago tonight"... focus on the happiness. This is very difficult, we have no control, and I am not used to not being able to use the power of persuasion to get what I want- but our children are worth it!!!!

Hugs for you,
Mary

staceyinal · #11 07-10-2006, 04:55 PM

You're really really close to being at the end - you're in the home stretch! I am praying for GOOD NEWS for you THIS WEEK. Besides, I always like reading your informative posts - your information gives a lot of people hope.

shaynadam · #12 07-10-2006, 04:56 PM

DD Amasa- I never said we had it worse than anyone else, I am just saying personally I am starting to break down. I can feel my body, not eating sleeping just thinking the phone will ring anytime. I swear I think I hear the phone ring and there is noone there .....

lisam00 · #13 07-10-2006, 04:59 PM

There is no doubt that the waiting is tough especially right now for so many of you that are caught up in this extended PGN wait. The children need you to be strong for them. If you have faith, turn to God and turn it all over to God. If you are not a person of faith, perhaps you can find some other avenue to help you along right now...meditation, talking with friends, or a weekend away to take your mind off things. Hang in there and now that each day brings you one day closer to the end.

God bless,
Lisa

amylynn3 · #14 07-10-2006, 05:02 PM

Shay - not to make light of anything, but I swear I hear my phone ALL THE TIME! It's comforting to know it's not just me...

I think all of these feelings you are having are normal. If you weren't having these feelings, I would be concerned. I don't have any magic words to make the frustration go away.

I'll just say it again - think of your child. You CANNOT walk away from your child!

We are all here to support you...come vent anytime you need.

shaynadam · #15 07-10-2006, 05:07 PM

AMYLYNN-I swear I really do hear my phone ring, I have even called the phone company for them to come make sure it is working. I don't want to miss any calls..I think they think I am mental, I am starting to feel it....

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