[WendyN]

You can't quit!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hang in there!!!!!!!!!!
We will all pray for you.

[mommywannabee]

Please don't quit.

[merkley3]

You're not mental, you're a mother. They can be easily confused, we do act crazy where our children are concerned!

Bless you,
Mary

[Mandy4President]

I'm sorry you're so stressed, Shay. I don't know what to say except please hang in there for your little one. They don't have anyone else but us. And if you can't eat anything else, eat ice cream, that ALWAYS makes me feel better! Hang in there!

[amylynn3]

Mandy - I agree - ice cream is the BEST!!! Not-so-good for the hips though. But at this point - who cares about my hips!!!

Shay - sorry, I keep throwing my two cents in - can you tell I am losing my mind, too? You are not alone!

[Larue]

Shay -- You're in my thoughts and prayers. Your Forum Friends understand your feelings. You can vent with us anytime. Please hang in there for your little one. Sending {{{hugs}}} and good vibes to lift you up

[tybeemuffin]

Shay,

Have you gone to visit you're little one yet? I did and it made a world of difference to me. Although it is a personal thing and you know how you will react better than anyone.

[Disneycrazed]

By no means am I saying this thinking that it will solve anything BUT....is there anyway you and your husband could take a little vacation. Get away from everything and just enjoy each other. Try to get your mind involved in something else. It sounds like you REALLY need a break and that you and your husband could really use some away time.
Please don't give up!!!!
You are in my thoughts and prayers!!!!!

[jaymo]

Shay,

I think that you understand that you are not alone in this crazy life process that we call "adoption". I, too, can hear my phone ringing ... I check it about 100 times a day. I have a hard time getting anything accomplished because I sit here -- at the computer -- checking ALL the forums, my SPAM email to see if my agency sent something and it went there (not 100% sure they will call with news, they have never called!), verifying that the phone works and feeling my heart stop beating when it does ring -- it is usually Jay asking if we have heard anything .
If you would like to talk --- actually talk --- to someone, PM me and you can call me or I will call you (I have free long distance ). That is why we come to this forum in the first place --- for support from people who are right there with us in the thick of things, waiting (impatiently at times) TOGETHER.
Try to stay strong. That baby needs YOU to be her mother.
Maura.

[shaynadam]

Yes - I have been with Haleigh...I was fostering in Antigua and had to leave due to a death in the family. I want to go back and foster her right now but I can't afford it. I quit my job when I went to foster and now I am just watching some friend's kids for extra money. I did not think I should try to get a job because I honestly did not think we would be held up this long. I would get on a plane tomorrow if I could afford to live down there. I thought about calling the Marriott to see if I could wash dishes for a room, no really!!!!!

[yaddakal]

I am alreday nuts and our little girl is only 4.5 mos old...but we are still not in PGN! I feel like we are on the long road and I am scared of how I will handle this as well. THis is definetly the only place to vent like this. Noone else gets it. Sometimes it is hard to go to work b/c I know that someone throughout my day will ask me...so when does Maya come home? I cannot answer it again, I dread it...the question that makes you feel like you have chosen to leave her/him there. Ikes...I am venting on your thread!
You have support here.
Do not give up.
I will keep an"eye" on you

Kerry

[maurahunter]

I was thinking the exact same thing and then suddenly I realized I could not give up and things started going forward...slowly but they moved. Hang in there!

[ej-momtobe]

Shay, Don't give up. Believe me, there are a lot of people feeling the way you do to one degree or another...I feel sorta that way even though my timeline is not very bad. I think the hardest part of the adoption is not the wait, its the now knowing...thinking every day 'this could be the day'. The optomistic people might think 'I know this is going to be the day/week' which sets you up for heartache when its not, so you are on an emotional rollercoaster. The pessimistic people think "PGN is a mess, I may never get out". which sets you in a permanant bad news. Somehow there has to be a middle ground between optomism and pessamism where us adoptive parents can be positive, without being anxious...I am searching for that middle ground. (cautiously optomistic)..have not found it yet. HANG IN THERE, it will be worth it!!!!!!!

[jpeel99]

I don't know what part of the process you are in....are you in PGN? If so, what about the child waiting?.....that will prolong his/her wait for a family. How terrible. Life gives no guarantees, but tests your faith and patience. A child is a gift....a gift of a lifetime....6 months....9 months....1 year or more....is worth that lifetime with your child.



HAVE FAITH

[cerca]

Shay,

If you quit where will we get all our good info on PGN

Just kidding. Please don't give up and please don't feel like you don't have a right to your feelings. This whole thing just sucks! It just makes you crazy...I couldn't understand why I have not slept in about a week until...my husband says....hmmmm maybe it is the adoption. Well I thought I would fall over from shock. I had never even considered it (see I'm loosing my mind too ). Somedays are just worse than others. Go see a movie, read a good book, or just crawl into bed...anything that will make you feel a little bit better (who knows maybe there will be good news waiting for you tomorrow...here is hoping!!).

Jess