[sandy16]

I don't post very often, but I know if anyone will understand this, it is you all. My agency made a mistake on our POA that caused us to get kicked out of PGN. This wasn't a "silly" PGN kickout. My agency took the numbers from our baby's birth certificate and listed them incorrectly on the POA.

Again, friends I tell this to think I am over-reacting, but I know you all will "get it." I just can't get over this mistake and am furious with my agency. I know mistakes happen, but here we sit 6 weeks after our kick out still in PGN. There is just no doubt in my mind that we would be out by now if the agency hadn't messed this up. So even though mistakes happen, this one is costing us precious months with our baby. As weird as it may sound, I think I wouldn't be having such a hard time if we had been kicked out for something stupid, like signing in blue instead of black ink (not that you get kicked out for that -- just an example). But this was just an absolute, flat out mistake and PGN was right to kick us out because our POA wasn't valid.

I am driving my husband crazy about this because I just can't stop talking about how the agency messed up. I constantly think "What if we had a different coordinator at our agency that hadn't messed up? What if I had carefully checked the numbers on the birth certificate"? (boy, I would have if I knew what I know now!!! -- I just assumed my agency knew what they were doing and wouldn't make such a stupid mistake). I don't think I have ever been this miserable, although I look at some of the PGN "long timers" and I feel kind of lucky. I wake up every morning praying that we will get out and praying that people like the Lockharts get out.

No need to respond. I just needed to vent. I think if I mention this to my husband one more time, he will lose it! Thanks for listening --

Sandy

[Mandy4President]

That's too bad, I'm sorry to hear that. I think it's hard to get over when your agency screws up because exactly what you said, it is costing you precious moments with your child. It's such a personal process and one little mistake can set you back weeks. You'd think they'd be more careful, huh? Well, that stinks and hopefully your second time around is shorter!


Mandy

[dlwcfp1]

How incredibly frustrating. I'm so sorry.

[brandydawn]

I don't think you will get over it until you are out of PGN. It is very frustrating and logic really doesn't play a part when you are waiting for your child to come home.

I am sorry this happened, the kick outs are hard to deal with no matter the reason but to know it was preventable really bites.

Regards,
Brandy

[aMarylandfamily]

... and come back to celebrate too when things get moving ... we thrive on helping others through the frustrations (and anger) as well as jumping for joy when its time ...

... and do remember - everything has a reason and there is a reason for everything ... you may never know what this was but ...

Take care and remember we do understand (even those of us who aren't PGN journey'd!

[Michelle Smiles]

I'm so sorry - that is so frustrating. I'm a social worker (not associated with anything like adoption) and I know I've made mistakes in the past that have cost my clients frustration. I always feel horrible about it. Maybe it would make you feel better (and ensure that the agency personnel understand what it costs someone when a careless mistake is made) if you could write them a letter expressing your frustration. Express how you are feeling and your feelings of frustration, anger and helplessness in the face of this mistake - I don't mean be nasty, I mean be honest. If you don't feel your agency will take this in the manner you intend it, write it now and don't mail it until you have your child home. Just a suggestion - might help you to get it off your chest.

[alreadylove2005]

Okay, I just wrote a SCATHING post and erased it because my baby's not home yet.

Gosh, this is hard.........

[Mommy2twins]

I don't know if it helps or not, but we entered PGN on 3/23 as well. We've had no kickouts but still we wait for news.... sadly nothing yet.

[kimberlyann68]

How frustrating! I'm very sorry that this has happened to you.

[maxattack]

I am right there with you! My daughter's name was spelled wrong! Entered PGN March 8. OUT March 9th....back in April 19,.....still sitting, no word! My daughter will be a YEAR old in JUNE! GRRRR!

[dsepme]

How do you get over it? Your child comes home and you don't have to deal with the agency anymore. You tell everyone who asks for feedback on the agency what happened to you. One day you just get tired of rehashing it because you're a mom now, and just too busy cleaning spills up off the floor, and you move on. The end.

[whereintheworld]

I feel your pain, as I have been there. I know that the stress level goes up so many notches after something like this, that it becomes harder and harder everyday. Was I happy that our agency made a mistake, NO. But I do believe that they handled the communication well, and that they did everything in their power to make up some time after PGN.

The only thing I can say to you is that your agency admitted their mistake....and to me, that makes them a better agency than the ones that lie or just tell their clients they haven't heard anything yet. The reality is that the agency is made up of human beings, and sometimes people make mistakes....the really lousy part is the "why did it have to happen to me" factor. If this is the only problem that you have had with your agency, I disagree with other posters who say you should give less than glowing references in the future.

Right now, telling you that "it will feel better when your child gets home" isn't going to lighten your stress...but, I am going to say it anyhow, we are home for a few weeks now and while I still wish we had been home a little sooner, my beautiful little boy is now home FOREVER.

I'll be thinking of you and hoping that it won't be much longer for you!

[amylynn3]

Sandy - Bringing your baby home will put all of the frustration behind you. Until then, you have to hang on tight for your baby!!! I am sorry this is happening to you. We are sitting here waiting too!!! Ugh!!! Come on PGN man - SIGN US ALL OUT!!!