[dspakowsky]

I've been reading posts lately about families starting adoption if their medical procedures to get pregnant don't work.

We tried to get pregnant the old fashioned way , but eventually the doctors said we should try IFV or AI. My husband and I looked at each other and knew right away we weren't going that route (we don't beleive in the science behind it). We started on our adoption journey with much excitement and never looked back. I was wondering if anyone else did the same?

I know some families always planned to adopt. For us it's been a blessing we didn't even see coming!

[Bizzie]

We discussed our options we could do IVF and not get pregnant and be out the $$ or we could adopt and know that our child would be home with us soon after.

After all the stress I went through TTC, the minute we decided to not do IVF the stress just went away.

[dspakowsky]

Originally Posted by Bizzie

After all the stress I went through TTC, the minute we decided to not do IVF the stress just went away.

What is TCC? I've heard that term a lot.

[lexiesmom]

We tried some oral meds and it didn't work and they made me "nutty." We decided not to pursue any further medical treatment since the cost was so high and it was not a "guaranteed" happy outcome....

Donna

[Hopingsoon]

Hello!

We not only skipped fertility treatments, we skipped trying to get pregnant altogether.

When we decided we wanted a family (I am 39 and he is 51), I was on medication, and was unsure if I would ever get off it. I didn't want to risk a pregnancy while on this stuff, so we decided to adopt. Ironically, I'm now off all medication and doing well. We ahve no second thoughts on adoption, though.

[Bizzie]

TTC in the net term for Trying to Conceive.

[bizzee]

TTC = Trying To Conceive

We only went as far as hormone shots for ovulation. Funny thing, the insurance would not approve IUI because it bypassed the natural course. I was not too keen on anything beyond what I had already been through w/o results.

[kelceesmom]

We did do AI but did not go the IVF route. We new the chances were very slim and we could put our funds per say to a better use with much better odds in adoption. We had always discussed adopting later after having our own it just came sooner than later. Never regretted our decision either.

[curlyqgyrl]

We ttc for 15 months with 1 m/c after 10. We did the whole temping and all the fun stuff involved to "up" our chances. After 15 months we both thought, this is NUTS! We just want to have a family! I thank God every day that we never stayed pg, and that I never got pg. I wouldn't have the beautiful most precious children that I do today if we did.

[truegirl]

We have been married for going on 6 yrs now, after 3 years with no protection we wondered why we hadn't gotten pregnant, so I went to the gyn. Well turns out i had some SEVERE endometriosis, so much so that my ovaries were attched to the back side of my uterus ( sorry guys ) after that they said we shold be pregnant in a year, so we waited 11 months and no go so we decided to adopt, only we were originally going to adopt out of foster care, so we went through all the classes and got certified only to be looked down upon because we are relatively young in comparison ( 25 & 26 ) then my big sis showed me Mia's pic and we fell in love ,we started the paper chase the next day and here we are. Adoption is so prevelent in my family with an adopted brother, ( mentally handicapped ) and adopted Neice ( Cambodia ) and adoptde nephew ( Vietnam ) and a cousin who gave her baby up for adoption ( teen pregnancy ) that it was a natural next step for us. We never got tested beyond my endometriosis and probably never will, we figure if there is no medical reason why i am not getting pregnant then we are just supposed to adopt and who knows I may get pregnant later, if not we will do it all over again, although we probably will stick with the foster care adoption, next time, just becuase it is a LOT less stressful financially, although not necessarily emotionally, we shall see you never can tell. God has his plans and we are just along for the ride.


Gd Bless
Nichole

[kt1988]

TTC means "Trying To Conceive"

DH and I went through all of the basic testing (ie. sperm analysis, HSG, post-coital test, etc.). We decided that adoption was the better choice since IVF wasn't a guarantee for achieving a pregnancy.

[Yelena]

Since DH had a vasectomy about 6 years before we met, we considered AI through a donor or having his vas reversed.

We decided against a donor because DH felt "weird" about it. He was afraid he'd always view the child as MY child, not HIS or OUR child. We researched the possibility of a vas reversal, but the odds of it working were sooooo slim. Too expensive and too invasive for such a small chance of success.

Also, we really, really wanted a girl -- obviously there's no guarantee of that if we went the pregnancy route.

Since I never had the burning desire to be pregnant, and since neither of us felt the need to be biologicially related to the child, adoption made the most sense to us. We checked out domestic and international, and came to the conclusion that a baby girl from Guatemala would be the very best thing in the world to complete our family!

[ej-momtobe]

We never tried any of it. We tried for 2 years (taking my temperature to help figure out whe the critical times of the month were). We never even went to the doctor to get tested to see why we couldn't get pregnant. There are a lot of children in this world that need a home, and it just doesn't make sense to us to use advanced medical science to create another. If nature gave us a child, that would have been great, but it didn't work that way, so adoption is great too.....In a lot of ways adoption fills a space in our hearts that even a bio child may not be able to fill.

[Yelena]

Originally Posted by ej-momtobe

In a lot of ways adoption fills a space in our hearts that even a bio child may not be able to fill.

I totally get this! I don't know why, but even if I could have a biological baby, I'd still want to adopt. I've wanted to adopt since I knew what the word meant. Interesting how things all work out, isn't it?

[jaymo]

This is pretty interesting to read about everyone's journey! We TTC for a while -- no, I am not sure how long it was, I think about a year -- then we saw a fertility dr who said "Give me $5000 and I will get you pregnant" Nice, huh?! No thank you! Then we saw another dr (in the army this time -- much nicer!) and we did the pills for 4 cycles with IUI and the shots 1X with IUI. I got pregnant 1 time verified but 3 times after that not verified (all just chemical) and then we decided to stop. This whole process took about 4 years I guess as hubby was not ever home for 2 months in a row. This was all for Jay to figure out that he wanted to adopt though because I knew from my teens that I would never "just get pg". It took him a litle bit to realize that these children will be ours.

Have a great day!
Maura.