[SmileLaughLearn]

I've wanted to adopt ever since I can remember, and I brought it up to my dh within our first 5 dates! He happily agreed that we would adopt at least 2 children, whether or not we could have bio kids. We've been married a year and haven't conceived, but neither of us is concerned. We'll be perfectly happy to adopt all of our children, however many that may be!

[green_eyes522]

We skipped all the medical treatments as well and went straight to adoption. We felt we couldn't justify spending $$ on a chance when there are so many kids in the world who need loving homes.

We've never looked back either.

We also looked at foster adopt but were turned down because we were too young 25 and 30. Also, because we're a military family and the kids can't move with us if we transfer.

God had another plan for us though,

[JoTed]

We went as far as an IUI. Because of religious reasons and it just not feeling like it was the right thing to do, we stopped. Our son is such a huge blessing, we feel that it was the Lord's will that we pursued adoption and he came into our lives.

[dsepme]

I have never wanted to birth my children. My husband has never wanted to create them. We talked about adoption on our 2nd date, and the rest is history! To be honest, we are both so moody sometimes and were reportedly "horrible" babies, we are convinced that we would have created monsters :-), so we thank God in heaven daily for uniting us with our sons. They are gracious, loving, funny, brilliant, affectionate, cuddly, and so stunningly handsome! There's NO WAY we could have created children as incredible as them!

[holliam]

We had always planned to adopt. I was pregnant once "the old fashioned way" but I lost that pregnancy right before my 2nd trimester. When it became evident that we would need to do more intensive intervention, we chose adoption instead. I have no doubt that this was the right choice for us.

Holli

[TerriBB]

When I was only 3 or 4 years old some family friends had a new baby & my mom read the announcement to me. "I wasn't expected, I was selected"...isn't it funny that it has stuck with me for years. (That baby is now a 40 year old, successful business man! )

We went through IUI for one round and we gave ourselves one chance. (God helps those who help themselves was our theory...) It didn't work, so we happily started the paperwork that day! Ironically, we got pregnant on our own two months later. He's now 3.5 years old.

Last summer we once again gave ourselves one round of IUI and had the paperwork ready! Adopting has always been in our hearts. (A friend of ours did the IUI one round & they're pregnant with triplets... )

[SisterBear]

We have a bio 2 1/2 year old and decided to adopt instead of trying to get pregnant again. I did have 2 miscarriages before DD but to be honest, we just feel that God is leading us to adopt. We constantly get the "Why not just have your own?" question (hate that question!).

Lana

[hbrown24]

I have Premature Ovarian Failure and doctors told me that I had a slim to none chance of conceiving and no form of fertility treatment would work except using a donor egg. Both my husband and I didn't feel right about that, especially with so many children in the world who need homes.

That being said, I am grateful I didn't have to go through all the fertility treatments for years, then not have it work, then go to adoption, even if it means never having a bio child. I know God meant for us to adopt Emilia and I am so glad we did. My husband and I grew so close through the adoption process, a closeness I don't know would have come through any other way.

[4abrightfuture3]

We also went the adoption route. Actually after trying to conceive for a year and half and seeing Drs and having tests I was emtionally exhausted. After a surgery (which was supposed to give us answers and didnt....) the dr was so HAPPY to suggest hormone injestions etc. I was done. My dh and I agreed no more. We left feeling if God wanted me to get pregnant I would if not I would have to find a way to accept not having a third child. I was very depressed. About a month later leafing thru some homeschool papers I came across an adoption flyer with the most beautiful little Guatemalan beauty on the front. I had chills and then I knew THIS was God's plan for us. One year later here we are

[allido]

SisterBear: We have a bio and decided to adopt instead of trying to get pregnant again. . .to be honest, we just feel that God is leading us to adopt. We constantly get the "Why not just have your own?" question (hate that question!).

Me too. I got pregnant with DS (now almost 5) without really trying, had an easy pregnancy and LOVED being pregnant (I cried when I went into labor b/c I knew I wouldn't be pregnant anymore , with a easy, drug-free deliverly. But once we seriously began thinking about another child, I felt more of a desire to adopt than to birth. I don't really have a good, short answer to the "why not just get pregant again" question. Maybe b/c the 1st time went so well, and I don't want to push my luck with the next one? Maybe b/c even if you follow the reccommedations to the letter, your best chance of "natural" gender selection is only 75%? Maybe because I love my son so much but still feel the NEED to love a daughter the way my mom loves me? I know I will have a totally unique and stronger bond with each of my kids based on the different ways they came into our family- but both are gifts from God.

[brinawynne]

Adoption was our first choice. I have always had the desire to adopt, since a small child, and when I approached my husband about it while we were still engaged, he completly agreed. We've been married now for almost 7 years and have never TTC, but we also haven't done anything to prevent it. God is good when He leads you to your child, whatever that path may be!

[DianeS]

Oh, yes. Though for us, we went through all the testing when I had trouble getting pregant, and the times I did get pregant miscarried. They uncovered some problems that even extensive medication would not always cure. Thousands of dollars, sticking myself with needles everyday, and taking multiple pills every day - all for a 50/50 chance of having a child live long enough to be born? No thanks.

Adopting was always on our radar anyway. Young age is often a plus in carrying and delivering a bio child, and more mature age is often a plus in being picked for an adopted child. So we intended to have bio kids then adopted kids. So switching from that plan to adopted only wasn't a complete plan change for us.

[AMEN]

Yep.

For 4 years, DH and I tried all the basic stuff (temps, semen analysis, HSG, post-coital, Clomid and hormone shots--even 2 laparoscopies) before we just threw in the towel. IVF wasn't even an option for us for religious reasons and IUI/AI just didn't seem right either.

We started our first adoption after my 6th cycle of Clomid and then threw the charts away.

I like what someone else above said--that adoption has showed me something about myself and the world that having a bio kid never could have.

[angel_bayou]

Well I have an 8 year old bio son then suffered infertility and spent six years non stop at the fertility specialist and we just finally had enough!!!! I was a big crying mess!!! We're now adopting a beautiful baby girl from Guatemala and you never know what God has planned for you though..........

Vanessa
Waiting for Arianna
Gone visit June 9th
COME ON PGN!!!!!