[adoptingdoc]

Adoption was my first and only choice. I didn't want to bring another child into this world when there are already so many unwanted children.

[itsinhishands]

My DH and I TTC for about 2 years w/ one ectopic (ouch), but nothing else. We went straight to the adoption route, one reason because we knew the $ involved in AI and IVF would not guarantee us a baby, and, I was told that I will have increased chances of another ectopic.

So, here we are!

[adoptnky]

We also TTC for about 2 years. I always said that if I couldn't get pregnant, I wasn't interested in doing IF treatements and that we would probably adopt.

My gyn wanted me to come in and start testing and put me on Clomid - I never went to the appointment. Instead will filled out our application for the adoption.

My DH and I agreed that it really didn't matter to us why I couldn't conceive.

The MINUTE we made the final decision to adopt, I felt like all the weight of the world was lifted off of my shoulders. It's a great feeling.

Kim

[Michelle Smiles]

We ttc the old fashioned way for over a year with 2 m/c along the way. Next step was seeing a fertility specialist. We decided that we didn't want to get on that roller coaster because all of the money and time wouldn't guarantee we would end up with a family. I didn't want to wake up 40 and bitter over my infertility and then try adoption. We decided to hope on the adoption roller coaster and continue trying to old fashioned way - the pressure is off and if we conceive, wonderful, and if not we will still have a family and a child to love.

[euphemie]

I always wanted to adopt then I met DH, his first wife had talked him into a vasectomy after they had two children and a reversal just didn't seem to make sense for us. We couldn't afford to adopt initially so we chose the AI IUI route and the third try conceived our son. A year later, after 1 try I miscarried and we took a break for a bit when we moved. We ended up with clomid for 6 cycles I think and injections for the last two before calling it quits. The women in my family all hit menopause early and I'm no exception, I am lucky I got pregnant at all, I had already started minor hot flashes at 34. IVF was never an option due to the cost and unpredictability and I didn't think we'd ever be able to afford adoption except on the state level, which we both agreed might be more than we could handle emotionally and attachment wise. I thought I could handle just being thankful for what I had, but no. Apparently my need to mother goes way beyond that so here we are a couple of years later and fortunately we are finally able to afford adoption.

[jaenelle]

Originally Posted by Hopingsoon

Hello!

We not only skipped fertility treatments, we skipped trying to get pregnant altogether.

Ditto! I'm absolutely miserable off my birth control pills -- pimply, hairy, cranky, and feel SO UGLY. Isn't PCOS great? And the odds aren't real great I'd get pregnant without a lot of time and medications anyway, so I don't really even want to go there. I have nothing but respect for people who can TTC for a long time hoping for that elusive success, but it isn't something I think I could do.

[guatemommyof3]

We did not have any fertility treatments at all, although my doctor also encouraged me, too, because he could find no reason to explain why we were childless. I had always wanted to adopt, and luckily my husband agreed quite quickly. We have now been blessed with our two children from Guatemala and one biological child. When we were adopting for the second time, I found out I was pregnant with our third child. They are all very close in age, and we wouldn't have it any other way. They are awesome!

Karen, mommy to Benjamin (5) & Christiana (4), both born in Guatemala and to Bryan (3), our wonderful little surprise

[kandesmurphy]

We tried for about 2 years and then had preliminary tests done. After they all turned out fine, the fertility specialist said the next step would be hormone pills. We weren't that stuck on having a biological child and were getting frustrated by the stress each month waiting to see if anything happened (of course if I had known then what I would be going through with adoption, I may have been more open to other options!)

Kathy

[LadyTink]

We also skipped AI and IVF.

[saranbr]

This is a very interesting thread. We had planned on having a bio kid after I got out of grad school but then that time came but the desire to be pregnant did not. Also, although opposed early in our marriage my DH was quite open to the idea of adoption when we started discussing it. So no, we never even tried or shall I say, we never stopped trying not to. Who knows, maybe someday we'll give it a shot but for now are more than happy with our little daughter.

I can say that I had already decided that we would never do more than a basic infertility work up if I wanted to conceive and couldn't. Besides the uncertainty of success, I see all too many of the high risk pregnancy outcomes from these attempts and while some are good I wasn't game for the risk of multiples, preterm delivery, etc, etc.

[frankiegirl]

Adoption was our first and only choice. We thought why spend the money on something that was not a sure thing when children are in need of loving homes.

[krambk]

My story is a little different, This is my husband and I 2nd marriage, I have 3 children from my previous marriage and after giving birth to my 3rd I had my tubes tied. My husband has 1 child. Therefore we do not have chidren together.( I hate using this terminology because we have 4 beautiful children together but not that we dont share with our x spouses) anyways we researched having surgery to reverse my tubal ligation a lot cheaper that IVF but not sucessfull enough for me to shell out that kind of money for a maybe. Then we looked into IVF and we decided for a little more money we could have a better chance on having a child by addoption not to mention we could specify ONE child instead of a multiple pregnancy, since we do have 4 children already it wouldnt be practical to have 2-4 more babies with IVF(OOOOhhh that would be scary)

BRandee

[nwparents]

My husband and I did the same thing. We figured it was just ment to be...and it is.


Now we can't wait to bring our little boy home.

[dannysgirl]

We tried for 1 yr (IUI, drugs, temps etc) and were told that we had less than a 12% chance of conceiving even with IVF. I had always wanted to adopt from China and the minute we decided to do it, I was totally at peace with building our family through adoption. We did have one m/c and my DH has taken it very hard but he's also very excited about our adoption.

[corhen]

One of the things I love most about my husband,he can't have children. I have always wanted to adopt and never have biological children. I am happy this topic came up.

I feel guilty about sharing that sometimes with Amoms. Most went through so much and then choose adoption.

My question, does it bother those of you who tried and tried, for me to say that? I don't want to affend when I am taking to other parents. I just wanted to be a parent. I didn't want to give birth.

amy