[MNStarr]

We tried on our own for year. We knew upfront I had some issues with endometriosis. After a year and a half we just decided to adopt and not do further testing or treatments.

[amymole36]

"Our Plan" was to have 2 biological children and eventually adopt. Ever since going on a mission trip to Brazil, I knew that I would adopt someday. After trying to conceive our bio. son for 2 years with no intervention (I have PCOS and was told there would only be a slight chance.) ...we then tried for a second for over a year...then finally decided God had a different plan for us!!! We are so excited to be on this journey and can't wait to see what our little girl looks like!!!

Amy

[mommywannabee]

My husband and I TTC for 3 years and went for a few examinations to see why it wasn't working and they couldn't give us an answer. I even had surgery to remove a fallopian tube that was closed shut because they told me that if I ever chose to try IVF, this tube could cause problems when we tried (if we tried)...

We thought it over VERY briefly and thought adoption would be best. We both wanted a child more than anything in the world...

[DPline]

Originally Posted by lexiesmom

We tried some oral meds and it didn't work and they made me "nutty."

I did the same. Four rounds of Clomid and one very early miscarriage and I was more than done. After the way I felt on Clomid, there was no way I was trying anything further, particularly with no guarantees. For me, adoption was just the obvious direction to go, though it took a while for DH to get on board.

[huganangel]

I know I might seem out of the loop here as a single but, contrary to what many people think, many single women choose to become a single mom by way of IVF, etc. I discussed all of it with my doctor and was actually encouraged to try. When testing came back informing me that I was an excellent candidate for pregnancy (who REALLY knows), I realized that I didn't want to go that route. I'd be partially adopting anyway (by way of a sperm donor), and I've never felt a great urge to be pregnant or pass on my fairly ordinary DNA. Adoption just seemed so right. I truly wanted a child to care for and raise and I knew that somewhere there was a child who needed a home and a loving parent. Now that I have my daughter, I can't even IMAGINE loving a bio child more! Adoption is such a GREAT way to build a family!

[juliegillen]

We weren't preventing things for probably 4 years, and nothing. Then, we went to my ob/gyn and found out I have PCOS - so, we did some oral meds for a couple of months, but the emotions of that were such a pain - the meds didn't work, and we decided that we didn't want to pursue further treatments, so we began researching agencies. And now, 16 months later - we're in PGN!

[jandsmom]

My husband and I tried for 6 months and then went to a fertility doctor. we tried 2 cycles of pills but stopped because they made me feel nutty. We kept a cousins children for 1 year and he took them back, And then adopted our son Joseph. 2 years ago we tried the foster system, had 2 girls 7 and 9 years old they were with us for 6 months and their uncle got custody. I couldnot do that again so we adopted Sara.

Karen

[StorkWatcher]

You're definitely not alone! Not only did we not try AI or IVF or anything along those lines, we didn't even get tested to know 100% or not if we could conceive (although we have suspicions that my husband might have a low/no sperm count). We just knew we'd been married for almost 10 years and had no children, and we wanted children, and we didn't believe conceiving with medical help or artificially was right for us and it didn't matter which one of us wasn't helping the situation.

SO - adoption was our natural choice for a way to create our family!

We have other friends who also didn't try any medical procedures before thinking of adoption. Now, after reading so many heartbreaking stories, I'm so glad we didn't spend the money and time on it!

[Holifield99]

Just like amymole36 our "plan" was to have a couple biological children and then adopt. After two early miscarriages we decided maybe God had a different "plan". We began Hope's adoption and during process I got pregnant with Anna. We have since had a second biological daughter and have decided to complete our family by adopting our fouth and final. We have just begun the adoption process for number four.

[ManyTimesBlessed]

We ttc for about a year, during which time we found out I had PCOS. They told me that I could probably get pregnant, but we just didn't want to go through all of that. A year of being disappointed every month was more than enough for me! I had always assumed we would adopt, I just thought we'd have a bio child first. Now, I am so excited about adoption that I don't think we will ever try to conceive. If God surprises us (which would be a BIG surprise since I'm on the pill for PCOS symptoms) then we will be happy, but I would also be perfectly happy to have a family full of adopted children.

[Mindybeth6]

well we concieved our bio son the old-fashioned way. With not much trouble...although it did take 8 months....which isn't too long but not quick either. When we started trying for another two years ago we tried the first year and then we decided to talk to my DR. They ran a battery of tests on me, all were normal, excpet for borderline progesterone, and after months more they put me on three cylces of CLomid. THey failed. We did a sperm analysis and found thr problem. It was DH and they said his count was incredibly low that our son was miracle baby. THey said we could do in vitro but we never even gave it a thought. We went the adoption route and are happy we did. I have to selfishly admit that I thank GOd every day for giving me the opportunity to expereince pregnany once and have a bio son. He is the world to me. But our adopted child will be the world to me as well and I thank God also for giving this path to go down.

Hugs

[dspakowsky]

It's amazing all the different responses. I thought I was the only one that had a hard time in Walmart, Sam's Club, or where ever when some stranger asks "So, you can't get pregnant, hu?"!!!!

Thanks for sharing everyone

[akasohappy]

We have a bio. son, age 6, that took 7 months to conceive. I had miscarriage 2.5 years later. Was put
on Clomid for 6 months and then did 2 cycles of injections about 18-24 months ago - and I told my husband no way was I going to continue this emotional roller coaster ride. I really am not that crazy about being pregnant anyways. Our insurance pays for 6 AI and 2 or 3 invitro. but we really didn't want to go through any more stress. He told me Feb. 2005 he was ready to adopt. I had been ready for years!

Amber

[Dachshund]

From when I was a teenager I knew I wanted to adopt. When I met DH I told him if he wanted Bio's he's have to look elsewhere and he was fine with it. We've never tried, though I'm guessing with my cycle, or lack thereof, It probably wouldn't happen. I joke that I've seen kids being born and it looks painful- but really I've just always wanted to adopt. It's about parenting and raising a respectable good person, not about giving birth.
Can't wait to get this one home, and another in a few more years!
Melissa

[Tamiswaiting]

I've been TTCing for 9 months (I'm on 5DPO right now with no hope of success) and got my CD3 labs done this cycle. My FSH came back high (low ovarian reserve-I'm 42). My decision to adopt was immediate! I just want to be a mommy. I don't need to be pregnant .