[frankiegirl]

Ever since we have started the adoption my emotions have taken over. I can cry at things that no one would ever think of crying about. Watching tv is out of the question. I cry at just about everything on television. What is going on with me! Has this happen to anyone else? I know that when you have a bio baby your emotions take over, I just would of never thought that it would happen with an adoption.

[mommywannabee]

I find myself crying more than I did before, but my mom passed away in October of 2004 and I think it has alot to do with the fact that she won't be here for my first child...I also think it's because this will be my first child and it's taken a LONG time to get here and ever since we started the process, I've done nothing but think about it all day - every day!

[amylynn3]

I cry ALL the time. I keep saying to dh "I'm sorry, I can't control it anymore." Crying is and always has been my body's reaction to stress. Whenever I have a "good cry" I feel so much better afterward.

Your emotions are completely normal! Don't worry.

[wannabamom]

Hi,
I cry a lot too!!!! I think, "it's the adoption hormones!!!!" lol!!!!!! No, seriously, first of all, this whole process is sooooo overwhelming, in the sense, we've waited a long time (most of us) for this decision, and now it's real, and then, I always cry when I'm grateful , i.e if someone throws me a party, gives me an unexpected present, etc.... So, go figure!!! I'm a grateful, emotional fool!!!! I just wanted to let you know that when we get what we really wanted, or don't get what we realy wanted, it's then, that the hidden emotions take over, and it's so stressful (in good and bad sense), that it can be very emotional!! My whole life, I think, my worst trait is that I'm a little overly sensitive, and I still don't know how to get a bit more practical!!!!!!-- Sorry, but it's inborn I think for us to be emotional, so I'm not much help, but wanted to let you know, you're not alone!!!!

[Mandy4President]

I agree, I think the crying thing is totally normal. This process is stressful!! You know what else I've been doing all the time?!? EATING! I'm going to have to go on one major diet before we leave for Guatemala or they'll have to bounce me in!! Hang in there!

[annaguat]

I cried all the time too and it was just like being physically pregnant. Then my mother died also seven weeks after we recieved our referral of the babies. The girls are home now but I am still immensily sad about mom not being here to see my babies. Anna

[Larue]

Yeap -- I have the waterworks going all the time too! Even TV commercials make me cry This is such an emotionally draining process. And although we don't have the hormone issue. We've got a whole lot of stress going on.

DH keeps asking me -- are you sure you're not preganant? Hang in there. And lean on the Forum

[mommytoEli]

Yeah. You are totally normal.

[LisaDR]

I'm crying now...... lately it just seems to be meltdown city for me. The whole thing is filled with such dramatic highs and lows. I was bawling the other night watching ER.....

[dspakowsky]

I was trying to read a baby book about adoption to my daughter the other night and I couldn't even get past page 2 because I was crying. The book was "Did my first mommy love me". Anything sweet, thoughtful, or the least bit emotional make me cry. Even poems about adoption make me cry. You're totally normal!

You'll probably cry even more once you get your referral Then you'll start to see your childs face in other children. We'd be in the store saying "is that what she looks like???" Just yesterday in the grocerey store I swear someone was holding my little daughter (who's still in Guatemala). I just wanted to reach out and touch her.

Hopefully you're spouse can support you and comfort you.

[maxattack]

Originally Posted by frankiegirl

Ever since we have started the adoption my emotions have taken over. I can cry at things that no one would ever think of crying about. Watching tv is out of the question. I cry at just about everything on television. What is going on with me! Has this happen to anyone else? I know that when you have a bio baby your emotions take over, I just would of never thought that it would happen with an adoption.

Angie,
You are NOT alone! I can cry without any warning. Everyday I have to "work very hard" to keep my act together.
The adoption emotions are out of control!
Sue

[candkss]

Oh Angie its so true I have turned into the biggest crier and My Husband is not far behind me...I am sure he would love me telling that ha ha! I Cry evertime I talk to her foster mom and everytime I get on her web site and everytime I watch our video of her.

Hey Daph while I was at the store yesterday I saw a little Kya looking girl and I so wanted to touch her soft hair

[RLadd21]

Oh my gosh, I have been the same way. I think for us after having three losses and now in the end, we are actually going to have a real, live daughter, it does not seem real. Even when I have been running around all day making myself crazy trying to get the dossier done, I forget how many emotions DH and I have invested. Even the other night, he said, "Why Am I so darn emotional lately" (Ditto on the I'm sure he would love me telling that...) I had to laugh b/c usually it is me. Also everything that used to make me cry during the infertility/miscarriage roller coaster like seeing baby things in the store now makes me cry b/c I can look at it and know I might actually purchase it soon. I think when you wait for something so long, it is that much sweeter. Well thats what I tell myself LOL! I don't think I'll ever take my baby girl for granted. To us, she is a miracle. And I don't even have a referral yet, but DH and I talk about her as if she is right here. Oh geez, it is only gonna get worse! Hee Hee

[afl]

Ditto here!!

[EmmyLee]

Okay everyone, for those of you that don't have it, buy "Love you Forever" then, challenge yourself to get past the first page without losing it. I have tried, with a sick Mom and a heart aching for my newest waiting child, I read it to my child at home and she cries too. You will love it, and your waiting child and kids at home will too.