[4abrightfuture3]

Sorry I couldnt think how to word the title. I have been wondering about this and when I saw the sad story of the 7 year old little girl put up for adoption 7 yrs after her twin sister I wondered - How often do siblings of children adopted into their foreve family come up for adoption themselves and are the orignal forever family contacted to try and unite the children?? Is this done or is uniting the children not an issue for the birthmother /attorney/agencies. Or are no records kept to help with this?
After reading the statistics of the number of children born to poor Guatemalan women I wonder how many (sadly) find themselves in a postion to not be able to care for either an older child or a new baby again. Does this happen often and if it does would an adoptive family be given the option of adopting the child/baby??

[adoptguatemalablog]

I wouldn't even begin o say I know actual statistic. I have heard several stories here and outside of this forum where the family who adopted the siblings were contacted. Whether it is because the birthmother seeks out the same path she did before or because the agencies maintain relationships I am not sure. What I have heard is that this does happen though. Each person that I know did adopt the sibling.

[tammy2]

When I went to get Robbie I was told by the lawyer that the Mom had pt the 4yr old sister up for adoption. I did not feel like I could manage another child at the time, but I felt a great deal of responsibility for her. So I found a family in my church who wanted to adopt her. Then the Mom backed out.
Since then, my husband and I felt that God did not just choose Robbie, but his family was chosen to. We contacted our agency and told them we wanted to help the bio mom and bio siblings(4) go to school. It only cost $13 for enrollment and then$6 month each for this family to get an education. So the Mom and children are now all attending school and my family is sending money monthly for food etc.

[Bassette]

If the mothers return to the same attorney or facilitator then it is standard practice for good agencies/attorneys to try and locate the previous adoptive family of a bio sibling. It has happened several times with my agency.

My son has a biological brother living with his birthfamily. He is being raised by a cousin to his mother. He is now 7 or 8 years old, indicative that his homelife is working out and I do not anticipate him to be placed but if he is and the mother returns to our facilitator I will most definiltey be notified.

I encourage everyone to register with the Guatemalan Adoption Sibling Registry and to check it every few months or so for this purpose. Mmm, that reminds me,.....it's time to check myself!

[Brie Brock]

This has been on my heart so much lately. Our Birthmom was only 19 and this was her first child. I REALLY want to be contacted if she decides adoption is right for her/child in the future. I have contacted my agency and told the attorney. Neither were very encouraging about the possiblitly of me being contacted. I also would love to help the birthmom in some way so that maybe she will never have to make that decision again. I'm just at a loss about how to go about it???

Thanks for this post!

Brie

[4abrightfuture3]

Thanks for the responses. I just think the possibilty is great that a birth mother would find herself in the position again if her personal circumstances didnt change and I think it would be such a shame to not have the chance to bring the children together or to atleast allow them contact. To have them scattered all over seems so sad to me. I would love to be contacted and if possible would jump at the chance and I imagine a lot of forever families would feel that way.

[jt421_2000]

Originally Posted by Brie Brock

This has been on my heart so much lately. Our Birthmom was only 19 and this was her first child. I REALLY want to be contacted if she decides adoption is right for her/child in the future. I have contacted my agency and told the attorney. Neither were very encouraging about the possiblitly of me being contacted. I also would love to help the birthmom in some way so that maybe she will never have to make that decision again. I'm just at a loss about how to go about it???

Thanks for this post!

Brie

Our Birthmother was also 19 and we feel the same was. But now at 49 and waiting for our 3 rd comming from China, I feel that our family is probally complete. My agency said that they would let us know if a sibling was placed for adoption through them and we would have the first chance to adopt. The also said if you decline they would notify the adoptive family of the sibling.

[Kimberj71]

Our son has a birthsibling who was adopted by a US couple during her pregnancy with him. We are now in contact with them (through the yahoo Guatemala Sibling Registry). They were never informed of her pregnancy or her intent to relinquish her baby. His birth mom worked with two diffferent attornies, the one with their adoption agency and the one with ours. We did know however, that he had a birthsibling that had been relinguished because it was in the family court social worker report.

I don't think it is unusual not to be informed.

Kim

[Mary Mulcahy]

My son Danny has a birth sister that lives near us. The family was offered the chance to adopt Danny but they have several other children. We were united by our placement agency and now we are like an extended family. Danny's sister's mom is Ricco's god mother and I was the sponsor for their oldest son's confirmation. It helps that we live 10 minutes from each other. It is strange when the families are together and we go out to eat or something. The waitress cannot seem to figure out who is who! I am happy that Danny has an opportunity to know his sister and I hope someday Ricco can met his siblings in Guatemala
Mary, mom to Danny and Ricco

[Qtredsunfire98]

When Dylan was referred to us we were told that he has a biological sister living in the US. Dylan was referred to the family first but they had just completed the adoptions of their 2 children from Guatemala. Dylan and his biological sister are 11 months apart. Our agency let us know after we accepted his referral that once the adoption was complete the family wanted to be in contact with us. We were more that happy to keep in touch with them. They do not live very close to us but we keep in touch by e-mail.

[marie2005]

Well, I think if the child is placed with the same attorney and agency, most have the policy to offer a child to the sibling's family. But that's a big if. A bmom can go through a different attorney and noone even knows there are siblings.

I will briefly tell a little about our daughter's story. Her case came to our attorney in Jan., we signed on to adopt her in early Feb. While visiting over the summer, the attorney told us she had a sister born in Feb. - because I asked about siblings. This is the first we heard of this and would have never known if we hadn't visited and asked the attorney directly (it was not included in social worker report). This baby had originally been placed with him, then switched to another program (long story). He told us he didn't know where she was but would try to find out. We didn't hear anything (attorney is a knucklehead to say it nicely). So I went through our agency asking questions. The official reply was they and the attorney could get us no info. on this sibling. So I set out to try to locate her. Amazingly I did. She was at a hogar and the director told me she had been matched with a family in the US and she would try to connect me with that family, and she gave me more info. on the birth family. And since then, she has quit communicating with me and won't give me any info. Weird. I am still trying to pursue some contact (only if the other family wants it, of course!), but if she won't help, I'm not sure how to find them. I find it so sad that we have this one opportunity to find out where Kimberly's birth sister is being placed and we just can't get any cooperation.