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Old 01-19-2006, 09:33 PM
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Maybe it is the glass of wine but I am so sad

I am so sad. It is hitting me hard. I have been pretty positive since things took an upswing around Thanksgiving but now I am sad.

I am working at a coffee shop 8 hours a week. I have done this for two years. Recently, I have decided to save up for a trip to Guatemala to visit Gabby. I am going to use my paychecks and tips. Tonight I only made three dollars in tips.

Three dollars in tips and getting bad news about our case. Even though we have been in PGN since 12/28 we still have not been assigned a reviewer...oh I am so sad.

All I want to do is see my baby.

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Old 01-19-2006, 09:40 PM
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You aren't alone...not in the sadness and PGN frustration..or in that glass of wine. I just got home from work and am having one right now. Hang in there!!! We will all get through this.
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Old 01-19-2006, 09:43 PM
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Sad

You go and see her. She will be home soon and then you will just have the glass of wine to relax after you put her in your crib. You will go quick once you get a reviewer!
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Old 01-19-2006, 09:52 PM
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OH jennifer- I feel for you- You have waited So long! It has been along journey. I am going to tell you that when Gabby does come home- she will be worth the wait- I cannot believe our two our finally home- it does not even seem real- I am waiting for you to have that feeling and it is coming- the delays sure do not help though. praying for you at night.

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Old 01-19-2006, 09:54 PM
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Oh Jennifer, you have been so positive lately, you have a right to have a sad day. This process is not for the weak of heart. It is downright stressful, emotionally draining, frustrating, and at times, just plain ol' heart breaking. I know you want to see Gabby, and I am so sorry that financially it can't be easier for you. I hope that you can find a way to go visit soon. I know it would hold you over until you could bring her home soon.

I know it does not always feel real, and most of the time you think this will never happen, but it wont be long before you are buying hairbows and dresses for your precious daughter. Hang in there!
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Old 01-19-2006, 09:55 PM
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I am so sorry you are feeling sad...please hang in there. Fares can be as low as 400-500$ round trip to Guatemala and room rates at the MArriott for a stardard room I think are around 90$/night.....maybe your agency can help find a more economical way for you to travel to see Gabby. In fact, many on this forum have info about this....I hope you get to see her soon and I hope PGN gets your case through soon.

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Old 01-19-2006, 10:20 PM
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Jennifer - you have every reason to feel sad, but it seems like you are getting close. Hang in there - I know we will be seeing good news from you soon.
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I am sorry Jennifer. I am feeling a bit sad tonight too. I just feel like we'll never get out. I know that is silly, but it is how it feels. I am so sorry you don't even have a reviewer

I too have thought about visiting again. But then I keep thinking I SHOULD be getting out soon so it would be silly to visit then just turn around and go back to get her. But if I get kicked out again I just might!

Sending you hugs!!!!!
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Old 01-20-2006, 12:34 AM
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Ok Jennifer I think you need to visit her...it might be just what you need. I wish you had better news to report with PGN that is just unbelievable. We need some people to get out of PGN so they can get busy with your file!


Lots of hugs coming from me...
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Some days are just harder than others. I hope you feel better today and that your customers feel better too!
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Old 01-20-2006, 10:48 AM
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Thanks guys. I am doing better today and we did find out that we do have a reviewer .
She does not have the file yet but we have been assigned a reviewer.

Laura-thank you for the info. I am going to work on saving up...on the bright side, if she comes home sooner, I can use the money to buy her some really cute outfits.

Linda...your funny, I hope my customers feel better soon too.

Mom2ddb...I often think that if I did visit at this point it might not be worth it because she could come home soon. I guess it is a hard call for us.

I just want to thank you all for the kind words. I needed them.

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and [color="Magenta"]Princessa Gabrielita 3 and Asher 15 months old


"For I know the plans I have for you, Ana Gabriela, declares the Lord, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11
1st Ref. 12/15/04
(visit 3/4/04)
Lost Ref.l 4/6/05

2nd Ref. Ana Gabriela "Gabbie" born 6/1/05
Referral 6/7/05
PGN 12/28/05
Visit 1/05
Minors Court Interview 2/05
PGN investigation 2/06-6/23/06
Back in PGN on 6/23/06
KO of PGN for Rectification of Bithmothers BC 8/2/06
Back in PGN 9/29/06
OUT!!!!! 11/17/06
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Old 01-20-2006, 10:55 AM
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Jennifer,

I always look for your posts because I went into PGN the day after you, but my agency won't tell me anything. I don't know if I have a reviewer yet. I won't know if I get a kickout unless it is a document we have to fix or redo. So THANK YOU for your posts because it helps to at least know where things are at!

I think I'll have that glass of wine now... no wait, I'd better wait till afternoon!

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Old 01-20-2006, 10:56 AM
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Jennifer:

You have been through alot, and it is a wonder that you have held on so well for so long. I can't say anything more than I'm sorry that it's not moving faster...I can empathize with you on that level. We are here for you.
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Old 01-20-2006, 11:01 AM
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To those who have been waiting so long, you are continually in my prayers...
Jenn-its ok to be sad sometimes,it makes the happy times seem so much better!!!
Just keep looking at the beautiful faces of your kids...one day you will look back and see how much you have grown!!!
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