[Brousseau]

Any one else have way too much activitey with family and friends the first month their new baby was home? Our baby is actually very social right now but I'm a little worried that alot of friends and family held her within her first month with alot of holiday get togathers. Any one else have any attachment to Mom and Dad with that kind of stimulation? Our daughter does seem to know we are Mom and Dad even when someone else held her she was very attentive when she heard our voice or walked by. Just a worried first time Mom. My Mom lives far away and will not have alot of time with her so I also let her spend alot of time with the baby. Thanks for listening Susan B.

[lmvsmom]

I think I worried entirely too much about this issue for the first few weeks we were home. Don't worry, your baby will know that you are the one to feed, change and comfort him/her. A little holding over the holidays by others will not permanently damage them! I'm sure you are excellent parents and very watchful of your child's cues. Best wishes!

[brandydawn]

It just made Silvia very cranky....we just kept a close eye on her and if we noticed she had enough we left the event.

Just watch her....each baby is different. Silvia was also very social but let us know when it was too much.

Regards,
Brandy

[KJones5]

I've been very concerned about this as well because we just got home two weeks ago. I notice that my baby drools when he gets stressed. He is also very social and everyone raves about how good he is doing but he does have little weird things that he does when he's had enought and I seem to be the only one that notices them. At one point on Christmas day, I told DH he had to retrieve the baby from my SIL and then I held him the rest of the evening.

[LadyTink]

I'm so glad you posted this question. We are getting ready to bring our baby home and I am so worried about her attachment to us.

[PackGirl]

I dont have an expert opinion....but I was worried about this when Ernie came home also. We were having our baby shower a week after he came home. Ernie is a very social baby. He loves to engage women in particular and he will smile and coo at them. I've noticed that when he stops paying attention to people he has had enough. He has been home almost 3 months now and it doesnt seem to have had an adverse affect on him. We are the ones that feed him, change him, and he sleeps in our room so we are the one constant in the equasion.
Congratulations on having your daughter home!

[Laurie5401]

Our baby is very social too, so at first I wasn't concerned about this at all. He's been home about a month and a half and has met a lot of people and enjoying all of them. Then on Christmas eve, he wouldn't go to anyone but DH and me. If someone else held him he cried, and then when we took him, he immediately stopped and starting beaming at us. It sure felt good to us, but was a bummer for everyone else who were used to our sociable baby! So I think they just go through stages and they attach to you no matter how many people hold them.

[Brousseau]

thanks for your thoughts! I am also a SAHM so I'm getting some extra time in with her. Daddy also spends time each evening with her. I think I also feel a little possessive when others are holding her. Sara has always slept in her own room, but some evenings we let her play in our bed at nite with us before we go to sleep. My mom had a portable crib in her room and I did let Sara sleep in her room when we were down for Christmas, she did seem to bond with her Grandma. Her two Grandma's were the only ones to give her a bottle besides an Aunt of mine. My Mom is the only one to have changed her diapers when we were visiting, except my SIL changed one. Everyone has held her, she has been pretty agreeable, I am learning her cues when me and her Dad thinks shes had enough we try and get some quiet time with her. We have had one baby shower before she came home and theres a bunch of my friends who are giving another shower Jan. 29, 2005. I think I'm going to try and keep her activitey level down until then. Good Luck to everyone waiting for their little ones! Susan B.

[mattecook]

First congratulations!!! As for your new little girl being very social this is very common. Many babies who are in foster care have a large extended foster family/friends who are around often or if they are in a hogar than they have others around all the time. As for her not knowing that you are MOM and DAD she will. I worried myself sick the first little bit home and now looking back and reflecting and thinking about our new one coming home this upcoming year I have been thinking about what I will do differently. So here is the list that I have come up with in my head:
* let those who are very involved in my life hold and play with her sooner
* Hold her as much as she will allow me and not feel guilty
* I will contininue to be the one to comfort, feed, change etc her
*Relax all things will fall into place
* allow her more down time. With Emma I felt that I had to have her in stimulating play to "catch" her up to what I thought was a normal developmental level. This time around I will remember what my doctor said and that was "more often than not when children are healthy they will reach these milestones when they are good and ready" and he was right with Emma no matter how much pushing I did she did it when she was ready.
* as a SAHM you might fall into the trap of trying to be the "perfect" mom, wife, housekeeper etc. always remember that things will get done and if the house isn't spotless but your baby is happy and you are fullfilling her needs than that is all that matters.

I am so happy for you
Ami