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Old 12-01-2005, 04:12 AM
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IN MEMORY OF MY SON (Cross-Posted)

One year ago today my boyfriend and I lived through the most devastating day of our lives. My beautiful son fell asleep in his arms in the lobby of our hotel in Moscow, never to awaken again. This happened the night before we were bringing Ethan home to begin his new life in the US. It took my former agency nearly 4 grief filled months to reveal to me that cystic fibrosis had claimed his life, and that he had not had a chance.

I wanted to take a moment here to honor his short life and allow me to express the immense amount of joy and love that he brought to my life in the short time that I was blessed with the privilege of being his mother.

In Memory

This is a dedication to my dear sweet son Ethan Nuristam
Who made me believe that I really could love someone more than myself
Who gave me a reason to wake up with joy in my heart
Who looked deep in my eyes and wordlessly told me how much he loved me
Who held on until I could come back and get him despite his pain
Who is resting on the other side of the world all alone
Who is the first thing on my mind in the morning and the last thing at night
Who had me wrapped around his finger despite my insistence that this would never happen
Who watches over me each day and gives me strength
Who is my angel in Heaven who will lead me to his brother
Who I will one day join and hold again for the rest of our days
I Miss You
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Old 12-01-2005, 04:50 AM
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I am so sorry for the loss of your son. That is a beautiful poem you have written. HUGS,
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I could have missed the pain
but I'd of had to miss the dance

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Old 12-01-2005, 04:59 AM
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I so sorry about the loss of your son. I remember reading your posts a year ago, and just can't not imagine your pain.
(((Hugs))) to you on this difficult day.
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Old 12-01-2005, 05:10 AM
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I'm so sorry that you had to experience something so devastating. The poem is so beautiful.
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Old 12-01-2005, 05:30 AM
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What a beautiful poem.

I am so sorry for your loss, and hope you can find some peace in your heart on this difficult day.
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Old 12-01-2005, 05:42 AM
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We are sorry about your loss. We are sure that he is , today and every day, looking at you and smiling.


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Old 12-01-2005, 06:00 AM
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Thank you

Automne:

Thank you for sharing Ethan with us.

Your poem about him broke my heart.

I pray for your new baby to be home with you for Christmas.

Elizabeth
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Old 12-01-2005, 06:33 AM
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I admire your courage and strength. My deepest sympathy for the loss of your first son. My prayers are with you today.
Soon your new baby will be home and I wish you God's blessings!

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Old 12-01-2005, 06:43 AM
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That was beautiful. He looks like he was just precious. Hugs to you on this difficult day.
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Old 12-01-2005, 06:50 AM
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May God bless you during this time of sorrow and watch over your Guatemalan boy.
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Old 12-01-2005, 07:27 AM
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How absolutely tragic. the poem was just beautiful

Mary
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Old 12-01-2005, 07:35 AM
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I cannot imagine the grief you have been through. I am so sorry for your loss. He is beautiful, and the poem is lovely.
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Old 12-01-2005, 07:37 AM
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So sorry...

I am so sorry for your loss. Your poem is beautiful and filled with such love. My heart actually ached for you while reading your post and seeing your picture. I have tears in my eyes now. I am praying that you will have your son home soon. And much, much happiness and joy!

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Old 12-01-2005, 07:40 AM
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I am sorry for your loss. May God comfort you today and always as you remember your son.
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Old 12-01-2005, 07:49 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss.
I hope Connor is home ASAP.
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