[2nd time round]

Adoption is not easy!!!! I experienced every negative thing everyone on here has posted. I lost a referral after PGN exit and new BC in our names. I was in PGN for almost 4 months the 2nd time around, I was lied to about DNA dates. But I tell you, you will forget all those things. I now know that our first referral fell through because Blanca was supposed to be in our family. I know that PGN took forever because I was able to take a 5 month leave because she came home in March instead of Dec/Jan when I wanted her to. ( I work at a school so I was off from March - until I go back in Sept). When people would say that my first referral wasn't meant to be, I wanted to slap them. When they said after the long PGN wait, "everything happens for a reason", I was very angry. Now that Blanca has been home for 4 months I am the one saying these things to others about my whole adoption journey. I guess when your in the midst of it, it is hard to listen to, but looking back, I can say everyone was right. I pray for all of you in the DNA process, (I agonized over the wait because it was with the father the 2nd time, as the birth mother had died. They didn't do DNA until 3 months into the process.) I pray for all of you in Family Court, and especially those in PGN. I was one of those, and I hate to admit it, that was jealous when some got out in 2 weeks and I was in FOREVER!!!! I pray for all of you waiting for the BC and last documents because that is the hardest wait. After you exit PGN, they are yours, and the wait is too long! And lastly I pray for you traveling, that you are safe with your children and that they will all be home soon. Like everyone on the Forum says.......It's all worth it in the end.....................

[goyankees23]

Thank you for your post. It is really what we needed right now. I know that all these frustrations & heartaches will be forgotten as soon as he is in my arms forever. But it is so hard right now. So hard NOT KNOWING!
Your thoughts & your post came at a very low time for me. Thank you & God Bless,
Gina (waiting for our son, 20 mos old)

[MLRJ]

I too want to thank you for this post- I am really struggling right now with the PGN wait and this really made me feel better. Thank you.

MLRJ