[brinawynne]

I'm sure this has been covered before, but I want someone to put my mind at ease.

My husband and I have been together for almost 9 years and we have been married for almost 6. So we have been getting this question forever and I generally just say that we aren't ready yet, or when the time is right or whatever, but last night this women that I barely know asked me "So when are you and Jamey going to have kids?". It was an innocent question that people ask all the time. But for whatever reason I wanted to say, "How dare you ask such a personal question!!! Do you want me to give you a specific date? How about 1/15/06 at 3:15pm? Is that okay for you?" I did catch myself before I said anything ugly and kindly responded that we are living in God's time and he we tell us when it is time for a family.

Were any of you super sensitive during this time?

Brina

[cr653]

yes! yes! yes!

and a bit crabbier, too!



cris

[amestes]

I really thought I would be fine during this time, I have 2 active boys that keep me busy but in the last week I've been really emotional. Our daughter wherever she is, is already ours in my heart and it's hard waiting on others to do the things that need to be done in order to get her home. It's hard explaining this to others including my mother, since they either don't want to understand or just can't. I know the only way I'll make it through this is by God's grace. I hope you get your husbands prints back soon!

[Princess Purr]

If anyone asks me that question I will jump down there throat since we did get pregnant and have a child. I also hate the "Do you have kids" question. Simple question, hard answer for me. Yes I have had a child, no I do not have any kids at home..then they want details!

[josiah1112]

Brina,

I'm so sorry for this. Have you shared with people
that you are adopting? I used to get this question
all of the time (even before TTC) and we used to
laugh at it. Of course, once we did ttc and nothing
was happening it was the worst thing. Especially
when all of my friends around me were getting
married and having beautiful babies. Then it
happened for us too and everyone was ecstatic
for us. Unfortunately our baby son passed
away 22 days after birth and it was horrible.
Most people know my story but sometimes when
somebody that doesn't know asks I gain
pleasure in telling them- "my baby died!"
My attitude has gotten better but in the
beginning I would get so upset and think-
it serves them right to look so shocked it's
none of their business to be asking anyway!!
Of course I realize that if I didn't have issues
I would be okay with their asking. It's like
when I see a pregnant lady and they are asking
her- when are you due?
I hope your baby joins your family real soon!

[mildredjohn]

We got married when everybody were married and start having kids. When people ask us, we answer that we are going to adopt. Very straight and proud of the way that we are going to form our family. The reaction has been very positive - but I really don't know how I would react if the reaction is negative! Probably very mad about it and I'm my latin temper will arise

Many blessings and enjoy your adoption journey! that's what we are doing.

[dj29again]

I am awaiting my second referral and am usually great under pressure. I rarely cry etc. I swear I feel as if I have all of these extra hormones or something similar to being pregnant or having PMS...but it isn't that. It is very interesting....Adoption and the way we feel etc. is very mysterious and fascinating at the same time. But remember you are not alone...I think many of us feel HIGHLY emotional at this point....

Love and blessings,

[lisam00]

Me? Overemotional? Nooooooo!

Okay, well, maybe just a tad bit overly sensitive, at times. I blame the anxiety of the wait. It's tough to wait. It's tough to keep fielding questions to which I have no real answers. I just keep praying and believing that in the end, all will be well. In the mean time, I'm trying to be patient with the process and with people.

God bless,
Lisa

[bjmom]

Haven't been that emotional yet except in the confines of my own home! However, I am getting annoyed when the same people ask the same questions every time they see me, i.e. "Any news?" Don't they know that if we had news, we would have told them?!

[Punkyboo]

I work for a small family business and from the day I started there, I was constantly asked if we were going to have kids in front of basically the entire staff. I always said, "that will come in time" but of course, when nothing was happening and now I am 39, I wonder what they think now...they finally stopped asking. My direct boss and a couple of my confidantes there know that we are adopting, but other than that, I am not making any announcements until we know something for sure.
I also have a Latin temper (half Mexican) and believe me, it's not always been easy to keep my cool...

Kathleen aka Punkyboo