[Glenna]

As many know, we have been in the process of adopting 8 y.o. Martajulia for over twenty-four months now. During this time, her birthmother became pregnant and despite our ages (46 & 53) we decided that we wanted to adopt the baby, too. Well, we just received word today that the baby was stillborn. The baby was a boy, just what we had been hoping for...especially my husband. We had questioned in our hearts if we were too old to adopt an infant and we had no idea where the money for the additional adoption would come from, but we felt like taking this baby into our home was what God would have us to do...but I guess we were wrong.
I'm feeling very sad. Now I'm wondering if our adoption of Martajulia is taking so long because we're not really supposed to have her either. I just don't understand it all. I know I'm not supposed to question God. And I do trust Him. I know He always has our best in mind. But surely He wouldn't have us go through this long wait and all of the expense that we've incurred if it wasn't meant to be--would He? Please keep us in your prayers. I feel so helpless and so very sad.

Glenna
Waiting with John (dh) and Jahnna (dd, 3.5 y.o. from Guat) for Martajulia (8.5 y.o. from Guat)

[mmkk]

Glenna,

I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. I think it's ok to question God. I'm sure God knows exactly what your feeling. Keep the faith and it will get your through this. I know, only too well, how hard the waiting is. I question sometimes if we are suppose to be adopting with all the delays with our case, but I try to remember that our adoption will be in God's timing. I will keep your family and your daughter in my prayers. I hope you will have some good news on your case soon.

Wanda

[kitz]

Oh Glenna,

My thoughts and prayers are with you. This is a hard thing to try to understand. Stay strong in your faith and know that you have many who care and are here for you.

Kitz

[kady2004]

Glenna - I am so sorry to hear about the baby - you must have such a mix of emotions right now.. I am truly sorry.....
My heart goes out to you.....

[RiverGal]

...but I guess we were wrong

Glenna, you were never wrong to open your heart the way you did. Grief is a terrible thing, but this little soul who, sadly you never got to meet, has someone to mourn his passing. God knew your heart was strong enough to handle that.

May God bless you, and comfort you...I am so sorry.

~Deb

[harwood]

Glenna,

I think the only way to get through any of this is to put it in God's hands. I have to believe that he has a plan for all of us, that being said, I also think it is human nature to question his motives. It is hard to understand why things happen. But everyone here says you totally forget about all this once you get the baby so keep trying it will work out. My prayers are with you and I am so sorry for your loss.

[Chrysanthemum]

I am so sorry for your loss. Please don't give up on adoption. Where are you in the process for Martajulia?

[LSS1104]

Glenna,
I am so sorry for the sadness and grief that you are experiencing. Please do not give up.


Thinking of you,
Linda

[Kristin Cheek]

I must agree with everyone here. Don't give up! We too lost an infant girl we were trying to adopt. It devastated us, but after much prayer and soul searching, we felt that God had a plan for us. And He did! We were able to adopt another little girl, and now that our adoption is final, we are just waiting to travel. We had previously adopted a little boy 2 years ago, and just felt led to keep pursuing a second child. I am 43 and my husband is 42, but to us, the age was not as much a factor, as our strong desire to have a family. There is hope. Don't give up on your little girl. Our prayers are with you.

[ConnieSue]

I am so sorry for all you have endured during your quest to build your family. Don't give up as it will all be worth it in the end. I truly believe there is a reason for everything and one day you will find out why. I hope and pray you get your sweet daughter home soon.

Connie

[Ozwald]

I am so sorry for your loss. Your family is in my thoughts.

[tricecm]

Don't ever give up on Martajulia! I don't know why it's taking so long, and I'm sorry that it's been such a long process for you.

Take some time to grieve. I'm very sorry for the loss of this little boy.

[sassafrass]

Im so so sorry for your heartbreak. I wish there was something I could say to ease the pain.
I do know that you need to keep on with the adoption. What will be will be. If you feel it in your heart and you love this little girl, then God will do whats best.
I will pray for your family and your little girl.

[kita1996]

I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

[giovanni7460]

I too am sorry for the loss of your baby. I felt so very sad reading your post. I believe Heaven has a new little Angel.

Patty
Giovannis mommy