[Belenbaby]

Thank you all for your wonderful thoughts and stories. I spoke again to my friend who said she would do whatever I want. DH wants to wait till we get the call to go. As hectic as that will be, we will wait. This way I will know her size. Heck, I'll be so excited I won't be able to sleep anyway!!

[Inanna]

I'm a little confused. I understand why you don't know about having a shower before your baby comes home, but why don't you believe in baby showers for pregnancies? Do you mean not having a shower until after the baby is born?

The way I see it, there will be a lot of people who want to bring you gifts. Why not register so they will know what you need instead of getting something you already have three of? I see no reason why friends can't give you a shower if that's what they want to do.

What's tacky is when the mother-to-be calls and says, "You're going to give me a shower, aren't you?" (for baby #4). That's just in poor taste. But if your friends call and say, "We want to give you a shower, what date is good for you?" I say go for it and have fun. It will take your mind off the wait and you will have lots of stuff to set up the baby's room, (another good reason to have a shower during pregnancy - there's more time before the baby's born than after.)

[rnnurse2be]

We have 2 bio sons, and have begun the process to adopt a baby girl from Russia. We dont expect a shower, but if I was asked about one, I would want it when she is here. That way people could hold her and I wouldn't have to explain the adoption process over... and over.... and over again.

I understand how you feel about buying items, in fact I was thinking about it today and am glad Im not the only one. Its almost a scary thing to buy something, for one you dont have...
My friend gave me some baby girl clothes, and I was (and Am) extrememly grateful, but am almost scared to show my GLEE!

Its like.... if it doesnt happen, then what do I do?!

I want to scream with Joy, yet am afraid to ....

Maybe when I see her, hold her for the first time it will be more realistic for me.

So... as far as Your shower... what can you deal with? I think your Dh is right, have it when he leaves to get her (since you cant sleep anyways! :roll ) or think about having it when she's in your arms!

Connie

[Inanna]

I have a whole bunch of baby girl clothes that were given to my daughter when she was pregnant. She had a boy. She wasn't sure what to do with them, either. I'm going to send them to our facilitator for the foster moms in Guatemala.

I know a failed adoption is the last thing you want to think about, but if you're worried about what to do with the clothes you have been given, it is an option.

[rnnurse2be]

Inanna:
That is a wonderful option! If things dont work out for us, I think that is exactly what I will do!
Connie

[Nella]

I asked my best friend, who's going to be the Godmother not to have a baby shower for me until the baby comes.
But, since I am a hard person to surprise, because I always catch on, she may try and get me while I'm not looking.
She and my family keep telling me to stop buying things because then there will be nothing left for them to buy. So I have stopped buying(well the big things).
I still do need alot of things anyway.
I would like to be surprised, it'll be fun. Since I am a picky person I know that until I register somewhere they won't do it.
So I guess once I say I registered then that will be the sign that I'm ready for the baby shower.
I guess I'll register once I hear I'm out of PGN.

Nella

[mommy of Carlos]

TriceCm......I am from Minnesota also! My husband and I are waiting to bring our little Carlos home. Hopefully soon. We are still in PGN. We went to visit him about 3 weeks ago. It was the best thing in the world. Feel free to e-mail me at lisspiv@aol.com
Lisa!

[jlwcats]

I decided that I didn't want my showers until after Christopher came home. So, as soon as I got out of PGN and the birthmom signed off on the Protocolo, the plans began and the dates were set! I really didn't buy much of anything until I knew he was coming home. It's what worked for me.

[annaguat]

We are waiting till the babies are home. I like showers with the baby or incase of older children adoption the child there. I think in the past it used to be that way. Maybe it means I am old.(-: Also I feel nothing is sure till I am home with my child. Unfortunately I have been there before when things did not work out on the last moment. Maybe you can even borrow some items from friends for a week or couple of weeks till the shower if you need things. I am doing that with carseats and have before with NB clothing etc. for a domestic adoption that did not work out. I do go and look at items and ask friends what they like for their baby in baby items and what works. I did buy my share of clothes, mostly resale, but that has been theraputic. ~smile~ so that already served its purpose. Annaguat

[Belenbaby]

This is a very old thread. 2 1/2 years ago.