[Tshintl]

On February 25, 2009 I found out who my birth mother was. On February 28, 2009, just 3 days later, she passed away. Words can not explain my emotions. So close, but our reunion was never to be.

[blueprints]

I'm so sorry.

[Jo Ellen]

Prayers are with you for your loss. (((((((((( T ))))))))
Hugs for you now.

[ripples]

My hearfelt thoughts go out to you - I can imagine just how deeply this has impacted you. If it were me, I'd feel an incredible sense of loss and anguish - so close and yet ending up with a very, very deep loss. There is a very supportive Yahoo Group called "Found and Lost" perhaps you might find it useful.

[JustPeachy]

I am so sorry for your loss. Have you been able to connect with your birthmom's family at all? It would be nice to have some rememberances of your birthmom and to hear their memories of her.

[cksmom]

I am so very sorry!! I agree, in time, I would look up her family. HUGS!!

[Daveb2]

Originally Posted by Tshintl

On February 25, 2009 I found out who my birth mother was. On February 28, 2009, just 3 days later, she passed away. Words can not explain my emotions. So close, but our reunion was never to be.

I feel for you, i lost my Bmother on the 29th Jan, i found her in 1985 but she always refused to see me. My sisters decided that it might upset some family members
(who did not know of me) so they did not tell me until after the funeral, thats the end of our relationship. To add insult to injury the website hosting the memorial guest book refused to accept my entry because i was not named in the obituary. I think the anger is helping with the grief, anyway i won in the end as you can see. it is now publicly stated that i am her son and i have said my few words. I lost my AMOM when i was 8 but i dont really remember much, ADAD went when i was 24, that was really hard but i got through it, this however is much worse and i feel so alone despite having a wife and two children.
Hang in there ,it does not get better but you will get better at dealing with it day to day, it will catch you out when you least expect it sometimes, you will need to find an excuse for the tear in your eye when a memory is triggered by something.

Here is my small victory
http://www.legacy.com/GB2/default.as...D=442505313533

[Foster2Adopt]

God bless you ,I buried my Biological Mother some time ago,It can be Stressful-Times,however Its a Time and Season for All Things..

[snuffie]

Aw, I am so sorry. My aparents died within 3 weeks of each other and a month later, I found out who my bmom was and that she had passed away 4 years before I found her. Losing 3 parents in a matter of 2 months was devastating. Take time to grieve your loss. Even though you didn't get to know your bmom, I know I grieved not only her loss but also grieved that I would never get to meet her.

[ripples]

Originally Posted by snuffie

I know I grieved not only her loss but also grieved that I would never get to meet her.

I would never have understood just how deep this loss is until I went through it myself. There are times I'm still surprised with just how profoundly painful it is to search for birthparents only to find out that they'd already died. Sometimes I feel as if the feeling of 'hope' (for anything) has been dulled from my inner spirit and I'm limping around like a three-legged mutt.

[ucme4dk]

I am so sorry for your loss. May you be able to find peace, comfort, and support during this very difficult time. My thoughts are with you.
Take Care...

[quilliam]

Very Sorry to hear about your Birth Mom. This had to be so painful.

I was a Reunited Adoptee on November 7, 2007 and met my birth mom on November 11, 2007 and on November 15, 2007 my Adopted Mother passed away.