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Old 03-04-2007, 03:12 PM
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My son is gone.
If anyone has been following my postings, I filed with DHS in Tennessee to have my birth son's records opened to me.

The letter came last night. He is deceased. The only child I ever had. I had such high hopes. They won't tell me when he passed away and under what circumstances.

I can't even cry. I'm afraid to. How in the world am I going to tell my Mother? She's elderly and was so excited.

Is this really happening? I have really tried to live a good life. I thought I was going to finally have a chance to tell him how much I have always loved and missed him.

Those of you who are Christians please pray for me and the soul of my son.

Thank you for letting me vent.

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Old 03-04-2007, 03:23 PM
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Old 03-04-2007, 03:26 PM
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Old 03-04-2007, 03:33 PM
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It is ok to vent and this is the place to do it. We are all here to support each other in the triad. Thru thick and thin, joy and sorrow.
I cannot imagine what you are feeling.
I am soooooo very sorry for your loss.
I am an adoptee who was surrendered with an older brother into the same family. I was the one who had to tell our firstmom that he passed away years ago.
I will pray for you and your healing and know your son is in God's arms, at peace and can support and Love you from Heaven above
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Praying for you! So sorry, I know your heart must be aching. hugs to you.
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So so sorry
Kim, I am so very sorry for your loss and cannot imagine how you must be feeling but my heart is just breaking for you. I bet you have a million questions running through your mind and no answers. Can you request more information from DHS or perhaps have them contact your son's aparents?
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Hi everyone.
First, let me thank you all for your support. It's unreal how much it helps from those who are part of the adoption triad. Others are kind but I can tell they just don't "get it." I am going to call DHS in Nashville today and see if someone won't just tell me PLEASE what happened to him and when.
I can't believe I may never be able to visit my son's grave. I think my overwhelming emotion right now is anger. I know that given time I will accept this and heal but right now I'm just p****d.
I love you guys and I mean it.

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I am so sorry Kim. I pray you find out and I pray you will be reunited in eternity.
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