[Melodie]

I found my half sister over a year ago(not phyically yet). I also found out that my birth mother died about 8 years before that. I was told she was so beautifull and would have loved to meet her. I do not know what to think. My adoptive father died when I was 11. We where baby sitting my neice and nephew. I am now searching for my birth father and an so scared that he has passed away also. I went through someting difficult finding out that my birth mother had died but I found a wonderfull friend in my sister. I love her. I just do not want to find out that my birth father is dead also. I just need a big hug.

[MattP]

Melodie, I'm so sorry for what you've been through and are still going through. I also searched and found that my bmom had died (she wasn't even 41), and I'm still grieving her loss. I don't have any biological full or half-siblings, although I did get to meet my bmom's sister, who shared photos and some other things with me.

I was also apprehensive about searching for my bfather, but I finally decided in January to do it, and we just met a week ago. It has gone pretty well, although I haven't gotten the warm and fuzzy feeling from him that I was hoping for. But I'm glad I did it, and hopefully he and I can form a closer bond as we get to know each other better. The way I see it, I have more and know more now than I did before.

I think I have a pretty good idea what you're feeling and I know how hard it is trying to figure out what to do next -- if you ever need any support or just want to chat, feel free to drop me a line (MattP44@aol.com). Take care.

-Matt

[Just Julie]

Matt, just a heads-up. We are warned not to give out our email addresses in the forum as they can be grabbed and used for spam or other evils. If it is not too late you might try to edit it out and instead tell Melodie you will send her a PM. It is safe to post your address in a PM.

Hugs to both of you.

[snuffie]

I, too, found my bmom too late. I grieved for her as if I had been with her all of my life. This has added an urgency to finding my bdad. I hope that he too is not gone.
I know that it is scary because I don't want to feel like I did when I found out my bmom had passed away. But if I don't try, I'll never know and I may miss out on something wonderful.
Here is a big hug {{{{{}}}}} for you.
Snuffie

[Montraviatommyg]

Sending you a big hug, that was always a fear for me that my bson would die without me knowing, fortunately for me it didn't happen.

Philippa

[nugget]

Our stories a similar so I understand the need for a hug.
Sending you several big ones.
I know for myself my search for other birth family members continues. Even if they have passed, I will find comfort in knowing I tried to find them.
Wendy