[Linny]

Hi all.

Hadn't heard from anyone lately........and I know I have not posted on these boards as much either. What's your status concerning adoption?

Are you in the process of placement?
Do you already have that child in your arms?
Are you ready to go crazy over waiting?

Just trying to do an 'update'.


Thanks for any replies.....


Sincerely,

Linny

[faith_amom]

I am the joyful mother of a two-year-old boy who joined our family through adoption at two days old. I am also an "Amom in waiting" for #2. We have been waiting for over a year and don't expect to have a placement for probably another year or so. I am O.K. with this for the moment because my son really keeps me hopping. I am sure I will get more antsy about the wait if there is no change a year from now.

- Faith

[lambeausam]

We're one of four families going to staffing for a sibling group. The staffing won't be held until TPR is complete, which should be early June.

[marinefamily]

Originally posted by Linny
Hi all.

Hadn't heard from anyone lately........and I know I have not posted on these boards as much either. What's your status concerning adoption?

Are you in the process of placing?
Do you already have that child in your arms?
Are you ready to go crazy over waiting?

Just trying to do an 'update'.


Thanks for any replies.....


Sincerely,

Linny

Hi Linny....We are in the process of adopting our son.We were matched with him at 5wks old and he's now 10 months old. We've had trouble getting someone to do our pp visits(among a few other things),but we FINALLY found someone to do them We are wanting to adopt again.Sense we've been blessed w/two sons(one bio*one thru adoption), we are hoping to adopt a daughter.We are signed up w/ Link. We are OPEN to ALL races 0-2yrs old. We are also open to a sibling group of 2 w/neither child being older then 2yrs old(2 girls or 1girl&1boy). Where are you at in your adoption journey?

[longgreengrass]

I am considering placing a child for adoption.

[Pixie]

We are the adoptive parents of two precious daughters and are hoping to adopt again.

We have been waiting five years this time around....four matches that never resulted in a placement and lots of other near misses. Some birthmoms won't even consider us because we already have two children...hopefully we will cross paths with one who likes the idea of a larger family for her child.

[Linny]

As for us......we are still waiting for the next baby. I went through this phase where I thought we had to have another baby RIGHT NOW.......but the phase has somewhat subsided.

Hubby and I will be seeing another birthday soon, and time is passing by. However, we are busy with the children we already have at home; and while I look forward to the next baby......we also suspected 'this wait' would be longer. We have placed 'conditions' on adoption situations that might come up that we had not placed before. I also believe that this will be the last adoption we will have. (Our children now range from adulthood to babydom.)

So, the wait is still on. In the meantime, I have learned that the 'right baby' will come when the Lord sees fit, I believe. We definately saw this in our last adoption----loud and clear.

And finally, I have to add, that sometimes I feel somewhat guilty that I am anxious at all, being that we have adopted so many times already. But, I would also add that I am, and will be more than happy to 'talk' to anyone that needs encouragement in the waiting game, or adoption in general. I feel we have had a lot of experience, and quite frankly, thinking I might be able to help someone-----helps my waiting time seem better........


Most sincerely,

Linny

[GailHB]

Well gosh, Linny, I sure can't turn down an offer for encouragement! We've been waiting to be matched for 8 1/2 months now. We have heard nothing, but keep being told "it'll happen." As Christians, we know that the Lord is in control, but somehow I still battle doubts all the time as to whether this wait is God's "Not yet" or perhaps another closed and locked door that will never open (like the door we banged on during our infertility).

I just wish I had some internal assurance that it WILL happen. I fear that we'd have a complete family by now if we'd chosen to work with someone else. I fret over little phrases in our DBML, wondering if we ought to change things. I want a joyful, hopeful sense of anticipation that God will bring our daughter home at just the right time. However, as the wait nears the length of a normal pregnancy (and so many others around me are having their 3rd or 4th babies), I question if I'm in denial -- that maybe we'll be one of the statistics of waiting and never-matched couples.

So, encourage away... I could use it! :-)

Gail in CA.

[Linny]

Gail,

I have private messaged you just now. I re-read your post and realized that you live in CA (when I just asked you in the message!)

Am looking forward to hearing from you....


Sincerely,

Linny

[marinefamily]

Originally posted by longgreengrass
I am considering placing a child for adoption.

Hi Longgreengrass...There are many resources to help you.Email me at gentonhope@charter.net and I can provide you with some resources to help you,if you are considering placing your child

[wanttobeparents]

Where are we? Waiting, waiting, waiting.

We have a 2 year old boy adopted at 4 weeks and have been trying independant adoption for baby #2 since August. Getting ready to give up independant and use the agency again even though they felt the wait for a second child would be over a year. Tired of scams and tired of getting our hearts crushed by women not even pregnant. We'll let someone else deal with getting the proof of pregnancy before we open our hearts.

Peggy

[longgreengrass]

in independant adoption or agency adoptions you still need proof of pregnancy. I am a possible birthmom and my attorney had to get proof of pregnancy from my doctor.

[wanttobeparents]

I realize that proof of pregnancy is required in all cases. The difference is that in an agency adoption the agency gets it, counsels the expecting mother, then contacts potential adoptive parents. In independent adoption, we talk to expecting mothers considering adoption, get her to send the proof of pregnancy to the lawyer, then get the counseling. So far, we've had one fake proof of pregnancy faxed from a real estate office where the doctor's office was nonexistent. We also had one proof of pregnancy that never arrived after 2 1/2 months. It was always lost in the mail/FedEx/fax. The tracking numbers given did not exist. The doctor did not exist, although the clinic did. In both cases, the expecting mothers were not pregnant, at least not under the names we were given.

We figure this is actually a ploy by our second child to make sure that we are prepared for him/her when he/she is ready to be born. It is a delay tactic because the right child for our family is not ready to be here yet. It's just painful to open yourself up to someone for weeks only to find out they are playing with your emotions.

Peggy

[longgreengrass]

i am a possible birthmom. with my attorney he calls the birthmoms doctor himself to get proof of pregnancy. which makes it easier for all involved.

[Linny]

I have often read about how your heart breaks due to 'insane' people who would present themselves as pregnant, then realize they were only lying the entire time. My heart goes out to you......having never experienced this myself.

Do your adoption attorneys do any networking for you? Does your agency do any networking for you? We wait until the attorneys or agencies call us and say, "hey, there is a birthmother that wants to work with you."

I understand that if you can locate your own birthmother, this saves money.......but you have to have nerves of steel, and I give you my respect-----because the roller-coaster we've ridden on, is bad enough. I cannot imagine being 'taken to the cleaners' -----like some situations I read about!!!

God Bless you. I just wanted to give my two-cents.


Sincerely,

Linny