[Tracy K.]

We're going to have a match meeting tomorrow (yippee!) and I was wondering if anyone can give me some idea of what to expect. The meeting will be with the birthmom only, as the BF has to work. There will also be a SW there. So far, the information we have is promising. Of course, we're trying not to get carried away. This is a possibility only, and we're looking at the meeting as a way to experience a match meeting.

So, without being nosy, what kinds of things could we expect?

[Support2Adopt]

Tracy, how did the meeting go? JJ

[Tracy K.]

Thanks for asking how it went! Oh my, I was so nervous, and so was everyone else. But it really went well. It was interesting, because they knew a lot about us and we knew little about them. We began by sharing pictures and talking about that--a good ice-breaker. We had a social worker there as a facilitator, and when conversation began to get away from a topic (as it did sometimes...it was simply as if we were talking to friends!--I'm serious!) she would bring us back around to some more serious things. We had already gotten to the point of discussing whether I'd want to go to a doctor's appointment with her, and where we'd be when the baby was born. It was quite an intense experience...I was pretty speechless all the way home, and I'm still processing the whole experience. Believe me, I am not really a very good person with strangers...it takes me a long time to get comfortable, but this worked out very well. We're comfortable with the adoption plan as it stands and are holding our breath to see what happens next.

[Support2Adopt]

Sounds like a great match meeting! Do you know if she will be meeting any other couples or has she already chosen you? JJ

[Tracy K.]

We're working with an agency...you know, huge book with 2 page profiles...mom picks out some she wants to know more about to read a longer profile...well, she only picked ours. Out of about 80 families in the book, she said she only picked us. Whew! (She even said she read our profile to her other kids--all under age 4.) And if you only knew how long and difficult the adoption process has been for us...it's very hard to believe that something would end up being easy at the end. We spoke on the phone this weekend (she called us ) and said she was going to send us a letter telling us how she came to her decision. She's a woman with a plan, definitely. We're so amazed!

Thank you so much for asking and being interested...and pixiefix, thanks for your kindness!

[Support2Adopt]

How exciting Tracy! I'm so happy for you! Woohoo! JJ

[Sidswife]

Tracy,

You have relieved a lot of fears that I have had. I am very nervous to meet a birthmother in the future. We are being looked at again this weekend. I hope all has went well.
Mindi

[mintshastagrape]

its very hard for birthmoms to choose just one family.