[boxersx4]

Hello, my husband and I have been waiting for more then six years to adopt. When we first started we wanted to adopt just a caucasion baby. Then through out the years we have increased everything. The age, the race, we are wanting to do any type of adoption, and also siblings. We do have and have had our homestudy the entire time. During the summer we got our foster lisence, in hopes of being able to adopt two girls in another state, will that fell through after being told they were ours and to get ready for them. Oh we have had contacts with some young ladies who were pregnant, ending in the bdad keeping the baby on the first one, and being scammed in the second one, yes I am talking scammed.
I guess I am just wondering what else we can do to adopt? I have registered two other states, our state, I have called some facilitators and they say they don't wanna work with us. Why I don't know, I fill out the application and they reply by saying "we can not work with you at this point, but would like to keep in you in our file", another tells me that they would drop their fees if we would be in AA, BR, and SN I said that we were, she said for me to check and see if it is legal in our state to work with a facilitator, I contacted a lawyer and talked to him. he said it was legal, so I called her back and she wanted our HS and so I had the faxed to her, then she told me it was badly written. So I talked to our state caseworker and she said there is nothing wrong with it. She thought they were using that to get out of their promise.
We are very patient people, but we really would love to adopt. We have been married for over seventeen years and have no children.
I was just wondering what else I could do?
Thanks

[SuburbanMom]

Have you read your own homestudy? If someone were to tell me mine was poorly written, I'd check and double check and get a second opinion. Also - can you pass a credit check? Our agency tells me this is the #1 reason they turn people away or don't place with them. Without knowing you it's hard to give any other possible reasons. Hopefully you'll find some answers.

[boxersx4]

Yeah we can pass a credit check, and we have had about eight different agencies and our lawyer and al;l of them have said everything looks great. I just think other things were a factor in the place saying it was poorly written. Before we got our foster parent lis. I had told the caseworker there to please read it and let us know what she thought, she got the copy and read it and said it was fine, she didn't see any problems with it. My husband sat down and read it and he said it was fine also.

[stynx9000]

Have you considered internation adoption? It's my understanding that once you're accepted into a program, you are going to adopt a child. The waiting time for a match various from country to country though.

Right now I believe Ecuador is around 6 months, and China around 14. The wait is considerably less if you're willing to adopt a "waiting child".

If you're interested, a google search should turn up a number of agencies that can work with you regardless of your physical location.

Ben

[Leah@Mandala]

PLEASE email me at mandalaadmin@earthlink.net. We'd be happy to look at your home study free of charge and let you know what we think. Also, as the previous reply said, international adoption may be the way for you to go. The wait time for a referral can be very short (as little as a month), depending on what country. I adopted an older child domestically through the foster care system and it was not an easy thing. Afterwards, I found out all the things that should have been done differently. We suffered a lot of heartache along the way that was unnecessary if only I'd known. Sometimes just talking to another agency can give you some perspective.
Leah