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Originally Posted By Paul Machelor

Could I get some advice....if my wife and I adopt an infant from a distant country (with similar features to our own)...is it possible to raise the child with him/her never knowing of its adopted status? I see that as desirable and think it is possible. Please help. Thanks. Paul Machelor. email: pmachelo@yahoo.com

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Originally Posted By Michelle

Why would you think it isn't important? I definately think you should tell them - similar features or not! If you don't someone else might (inadvertently not intentionally to hurt them) - and trust me that will be much worse! How will you explain no pregnancy pictures of your wife or ultrasounds? How will you tell the story of the day he was born and bringing him (or her) home from the hospital? How will you explain wether they were born early, late or on time? You will be the mommy and daddy anyway no matter how he/she/they come to your home!

We are adopting domestically, but I have a cousin who has adopted two children whom they love and are loved in returne DEARLY. They not only are sharing their heritage but are already planning a trip back to their birthland when they are older.

Good luck with your adoption plans!