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Originally Posted By roya

Sandy,

Thank you for your kind and helpful words. I cried and hugged my husband and said, "someone out there does understand!"
I read the two articles, printed them out and will share them with some special people in my life. Blessings to you and your family. You give me hope.
Roya

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Originally Posted By Sandy

Hello Roya,
I am glad it helped...just saw a similar post over on the transracial board...<a href="http://www.adopting.org/boards/get.cgi/home1/vendors/adopting/public_html/boards/messages/transracial/20.html" target="_blank">click here...a gal who had a baby at home for 2 days</a>!

Are you working with an agency as well as other resources to aodpt?
Sandy

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Hi Sandy,

That was actually my message on the transracial adoption board. That was basically my story. Yes, we are working with an agency, we are sending out letters with photos attached to friends and family etc.
However, during the past few months, my husband and I have decided that we want to move toward the international adoption arena. I would like to try adopting a child from India. Our agency has a solid India program.
Met with the agency today. Social worker said basically, "work through your grief first, then come and discuss internatational adoption. don't think of it as a rebound or second-best option."
NEVER thought of international children as second-best. A child is a child is a child. Besides, my husband and I are a bit unusual, he is a rabbi and director of environmental agency, I work for an organization that promotes peace among Arab and jewish kids. Our agency has told us that some domestic birth mothers pass us over because we are not "white bread Middle American." (whatever that means.) That hurts. Our life choices and multicultural familirs are a source of strength to us and our future children. Thanks for listening.
Roya