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My partner and I are thinking about adopting. We are both birthmothers, so we know how much support a pregnant teen needs, and also what it feels like to be alienated from your family when you need the most support.
Does anyone have any ideas of where to go to adopt a pregnant teen? We do have a social worker coming over next week to start adoption paperwork. We are licensed for foster care already. We really want to help a child that needs it the most.

Tami and Theresa

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Don't you think the above post is a bit odd? Why are you posting this, as it seems these 2 want to take advantage of a pregnant teen. Don't you think the FBI should be alerted to investigate this post?

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Hello,
I am not sure you understand this...these folks are trying to help someone who has been in a similar situation to theirs...why would you call the fbi on someone who is trying to be supportive of a young pregnant teen?

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I guess you live in a cave, with no access to a newspaper. There are plenty of social service agencies that help pregnant teens, WITHOUT the stipulation of adoption them, or manipulating them all in the name of adoption. Perhaps YOU are the poster, and are paranoid that your MO has been blown. This sounds fishy, so a copy of this WILL be forwarded to the FBI.

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I do not see anything wrong with adopting a pregnant teen that would otherwise have no other options than to give up her child. We want her to parent her child, not us. We did have a home study yesterday, and the social worker did not have a problem at all with our request. It is done, pregnant teens are in foster care with no resources to raise their babies.
You are so spineless you can't even put your name and email address. You are hiding behind your anonymonity. Come out. Let us know who you are. If you feel the need to contact the FBI, go for it. YOU will look like the fool, not me. I am not afraid to show my name, or email address. I am not afraid to help someone that needs help. You, on the other hand, must have too much time on your hands. I feel very sorry for you.
If you have a reply, send it to my email address (Bmomtami1@aol.com), so the board can get back to the subject.

Tami

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Originally Posted By a concerned professional

Tami,
I don't post here but I do lurk from time to time. I have to admit that your parenting request is strange. I work for my state Division of Children and Youth Services, and an puzzeled
by any social worker who would grant a homestudy to attemp to adopt a pregnant teen. My division would automatically refer the pregnant teen to counseling services, home bound schooling, housing, medical care ,etc. Adoption would never be an option for our teen in need. While I am not down and out saying that you are up to misintentions, you have to understand the red flags given to your request.Posting your email does not by any means take away any doubts to your posts. People in this world are just trying to prevent internet fraud, scams, and the possible harm that can come to a young, unsuspecting girl by two female strangers.
concerned professional

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I do not understand. I talked to the social worker that we are working with. There are girls in foster care that are pregnant, and some that have babies. It is hard to place them sometimes, because adoptive parents don't want the responsibility of the mom and baby. Most adoptive parents want to parent the mom and baby. We want to let the mom parent her child. I guess I am glad that we have a social worker that understands. It isn't that we are 'only' looking for this kind of child. We are interested in any age. Being birthmoms that had NO support, therefore made the best choice AT THE TIME, to give up our children, we can relate to a young mom in that position.
I thought this was a supportive place to find ideas about adoption. I had no idea it was such a hateful place at times. There are about 50 people that understand and are supportive for every one that is nasty and suspicious. I guess people that know us know that we are only wanting to help a child.
Think what you want, but I know I am doing what is right for us and a child.
How can this be soo bad? People go into adoption ONLY WANTING a white infant. Look at all the other kids that need homes. We are.

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This is the email I got-again, from an anonymous address:

First of all, I see major PROBLEMS with this already. You say that you
are a " couple", but are trying to do a single parent adoption. Does the
word FRAUD ring a bell? Who is your SW, and why would she help you do a
homestudy for an adoption involving fraud. Second, IT IS AGAINST THE LAW
IN SOME STATES FOR GAYS TO ADOPT!!!!!NO LAYWER IN THEIR RIGHT MIND WOULD
ASSIST YOU IN ADOPTING AND BREAKING THE LAW.I HAVE SEEN YOUR
POSTS!!!!!!YOU ARE SICK AND TWISTED.WHAT STATE DO YOU LIVE IN, SO I CAN
TURN YOU IN!!!!!!!

NOW...My reply

First of all, I live in Kansas.
Second of all, as a lesbian couple, one of us needs to adopt as a single parent. It is NOT against the law for gay or lesbian people to adopt.
Third of all, there is no fraud involved.
Fourth, for ALL the gay men and lesbians that have adopted, I am sure it will come as quite a shock that the adoptions are not legal.
Fifth, please get a life. You need to research this subject alot more before condemning and attacking people.
I will not respond to you anymore, I have much better things to do with my time than to worry about what you think.

Tami

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Originally Posted By a reader

Just reading this thread, and it is a shame you are getting so much hatred . I am not taking any sides, nor am I judging anyone, however as the previous poster mentioned, there are some states where gays are not permitted to adopt.I'm not saying this is right, but some states do have this as law. Yes, there are ways around this. A certain popular day time talk so host ( yes, I'm referring to HER) found a way to get around this by adopting as a "single " mother, when in deed she has a "partner." She did this 3 times, so if she can do it 3 times, perhaps you can do it once.
Good luck to you,
a fan of "that show"

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I know what show you are referring to, and there is no 'proof' that the hostess is a lesbian.
I do appreciate the support. Although, adopting as a single parent is not 'getting around the law.' It is adopting as a single parent. Since gay/lesbian marriage is not legal in the United States, the adoption by a gay/lesbian couple would be hard to legalize. There is not a legal bond between partners. One day that may change, and that would be wonderful.