[Happywife]

I am trying SO HARD to remember that this will all happen in God's timing, not mine. The "control freak" in me is having a hard time with that.

Last Monday, I emailed our agency a copy of our profile. I know it was just a first draft, and they are going to make suggestions for changes. That's fine. But the worker still hasn't looked at it! Yes, I know she is busy. She really is, and I think she's great at her job. It's just the fact that I can't do anything until she gets back to me.

Breathing in. . . breathing out. . .

We'll get through this, right?!

[Binny]

The waiting is super hard, but as a preson that just recently got matched, I KNOW that the timing was all God's and as such I feel that it is just the placement for our family. Praying you dont have too much waiting left to do.

[DannieAS]

I know it's all about the timing. I *know* God is in control, sometimes I get tired of the waiting, but I have to believe that God knew that it would be best if something happened close to the summer break or in the summer break for me since I'll have 11 joyous weeks of vacation to take care of any business.

Remember sometimes multiple people have to have a hand in different things when dealing with your profile, homestudy etc. My cw was very quick with the homestudy, but when she handed it to her boss to approve, her boss was the one behind...IDK, say prayers...multiple times a day. That has helped me.

[Waiting_for_my_baby]

Originally Posted by Happywife

I am trying SO HARD to remember that this will all happen in God's timing, not mine. The "control freak" in me is having a hard time with that.

Last Monday, I emailed our agency a copy of our profile. I know it was just a first draft, and they are going to make suggestions for changes. That's fine. But the worker still hasn't looked at it! Yes, I know she is busy. She really is, and I think she's great at her job. It's just the fact that I can't do anything until she gets back to me.

Breathing in. . . breathing out. . .

We'll get through this, right?!

I'm right there with you, having to tell myself the same thing!

[Happywife]

It's been 9 days, and she hasn't gotten back to me yet. UGH! Well, she told us the next day that she skimmed it and saw some need for changes. And since then. . no contact.

[aclee]

Just remember that it's YOUR profile. It should be how you want it and say what you want to say. Your baby will find you. Agencies don't always know best...Many people told us to take pictures and comments of our dogs out of our profile because many women did not like them...especially women in the south, which is where we would likely be matched because we were hoping for an AA placement. We refused because our dogs are part of our life, and it was important to us not to hide that. In the end, Ty's bmom chose us after we had been waiting a whopping 6 weeks...because we had dogs. She wanted him raised in a home with animals.

Be yourself, not who the agency wants you to be. I think part of the reason that many emom's have a hard time choosing is because some agencies make all the couples look and do their profiles the same!

Waiting is hard. I'm a control freak too...you control what you can, and otherwise you just find things to do to pass the time. I used to obsess a lot on situations posted on line

[Chiefs_dip]

I'm so sorry that you have been waiting so long.

It helped me to view all the delays as "This must be happening for a reason. I just have to wait b/c my baby is not ready for me yet."

As an adoptive parent, I know that my kids were always meant to be mine. Therefore all of the infertility, delays in paperwork, failed adoptions and all the other stressors in creating my family were God's way of having me learn patience (which is always needed in parenting) and to have me wait for "MY" child b/c they just weren't ready yet.

Good luck to you and hope you get your profile complete soon!

[lotsa_love_2give]

Waiting was the hardest thing ever! There were times that I felt as if God had forgotten me! But He knows best and he sure did know best when He lead us to our beautiful daughter!

When I held her every single second... every single tear and every single fear were justified!

Be yourself and be honest!!!