[GS2allgirls]

Dh and i have a history of infertility. our DD was an accident (well before we discovered our infertility probs) but it is obvious that she was meant to be here. its been 6 yrs since we started TTC #2. everything we tried failed so we were panning ivf in 2010.

our friend is pg, getting divorced and fighting for custody of her other 2 kids. she has decided that she wants to put this baby up for adoption. for weeks she wasnt sure but last night she called me, and has called several times today to find out what Dh and i decided.

she said she would be greatful and knows that her child will be happy, loved and safe with us. we have agreed to do this but have not told her yet. we want her to be 100% certain that this is what she really wants. she is early in her pg and going through alot. we dont want this to be an impulse choice, go through all the steps and have her change her mind. her Dh has agreed to terminate his rights to the child.

we have contacted a lady who does home study's here in our city. our friend lives in a different state. the laws of her state apply. she said because the domestic home study is only good for 6 months, to wait until after the
1st of the year to start it. baby is due june 1. does that sound right?

i am excited and afraid. terrified really. i could be a mom again in just a few months. but how do i get my friend through this? how do i accept this gift from her? i will be delivering a child for the couple i am currently a surrogate for, a few weeks after this baby is born(mid july). could that be a problem in getting approved?

we really have no idea where to start. i would appreciate any help i can get. i have quite a few family law lawyers at my disposal and already have a home study plan in place. what else do we need to know? we dont want to use an agency if we can help it. we can afford it, but we want this to be simple(as possible) and private. our friend is getting her prenatal care through state assistance now that her Dh is gone (as well as his health insurance). at least that we know for sure. she will want to stay in her city to be close to her other kids. i am obviously fine with that.

what will this do to our friendship?

i have so many questions.