[dragonfly1234]

Hi everyone, I am venting at the moment.

I have been a member off and on for the last year of this forum. I leave many times after reading really mad, upset and most times happy for everyone.

I just don't understand why some people must put down, or demoralize people, or comments that people leave. We all have thoughts that we want to express. If something is miss quoted, leave it alone. That person who left the message liked the quote. But do you have to be sure you are right and not the other person. What does it really matter in the world today that YOU have to be right!

Sorry for the venting and frustration that I am feeling. I am an adoptive mom who would love the world to be perfect and knows that it is not. But we can be nicer to each other and support what they have to say.

Thanks, Michelle

[bromanchik]

Originally Posted by dragonfly1234

If something is miss quoted, leave it alone. That person who left the message liked the quote. But do you have to be sure you are right and not the other person. What does it really matter in the world today that YOU have to be right!

I would be interested in specifics. I think it does everyone a disservice to just accept misinformation.

Originally Posted by dragonfly1234

But we can be nicer to each other and support what they have to say.

Thanks, Michelle

Certainly, feelings are neither right or wrong, and adoption is certainly an emotional issue. But accepting something as truth, just because someone says it, is not the true definition of support. Allowing someone to live with misinformation just because they are comfortable with it is not supportive either. Here is Webster's definition of support:

"2 a (1) : to promote the interests or cause of (2) : to uphold or defend as valid or right : ADVOCATE <supports fair play> (3) : to argue or vote for <supported the motion to lower taxes> b (1) : ASSIST, HELP <bombers supported the ground troops> (2) : to act with (a star actor) (3) : to bid in bridge so as to show support for c : to provide with substantiation : CORROBORATE <support an alibi>"

5 : to keep from fainting, yielding, or losing courage : COMFORT

None of those definitions include blind acceptance as a form of support. Even the last one implies support as an active verb, not a passive one.

I think support can be given with kindness, but I do not believe that it means complete and total agreement.