[indigorose]

Hello,
I have heard about a young woman who gave birth. I've heard about her through a friend of a friend (sort of thing). I am not fully sure of her plans, but I have a feeling I may hear from her parents before I hear from her.
The birthmother is high-school age, and it seems that her family is at least discussing her options with her.
I don't know if it's appropriate to ask to speak to the b-mom if I hear from her mother, or if I should have a conversation with whomever calls us (likely the baby's grandmother).
I would like to know who has legal custody of a child born to a minor? Who has the legal right to make decisions? As a PAP, is it wrong either to ask to speak to the mom (of the baby), or to speak to her mother (grandmother of baby)? I feel I'd want to speak directly to the birthmother, to make sure she is comfortable with her choice and that it is her choice, but it's clearly a sensitive situation for this family.
Any advice appreciated.
Thank you.

[tobeafamily]

In almost every state, when a minor has a child, it immediately emancipates the minor, making them a legal adult. This young lady, unless she has made other arrangements, has full legal custody of her child. As such, she is the only one who can voluntarily terminate her parental rights and place her child with adoptive parents.

You should consult with your attorney regarding the laws in your particular state.

Best,

Regina

[ourdreamcametru]

I'm almost sure the birthmother has all legal rights for the child and herself. I know our daughter's birthmother turned 18 the month before she was born but she had already made all the adoption choices and plans herself, while she was still a minor.