[wishinonastar]

Yesterday I received an email from a friend from college that stated "guess what? i'm pregnant FINALLY". It sort of shook me up..i think the "finally" sent me over the edge and the fact that she is number 17 in my life who is with child or just had a child. I sat and stared at the email for a long time as the sad feeling settled in my stomach. My husband was out of town and I couldn't get in touch with him. I emailed a close female friend and called my mom. They are who I lean on. Reflecting on all this made me wonder who other people lean on. Do yall have a group or a specific person? Do you keep it inside? Who do you lean on?

[ChasingRainbows]

actually I lean on a few friends I have made on online, and there is one couple we know who are also looking to adopt who know all about it.

I can be so tough some days...It is like you have to choose joy each day...and then there is those times when we are expected and want to be happy for someone else but can't bring ourselves to that point.

Hang in there, it will happen for you us both.

[mommamarci]

I did not have anyone to lean on (besides dh) until I found this site. I have found a couple people on here that I am in close contact with and that is my support system now. However, when it comes to people having babies, I bottle it up inside. Dh does not understand how I can get so upset everytime. He is so sure we are going to be parents one day and he does not care what method gets us there. I have gotten better since we actually started the adoption process. Usually I have a bad reaction to the pregnancy announcement (especially if it is unexpected), but am fine with the births because I have gotten excited to meet the baby by then.

[MommyBear]

I lean on the women at the office a lot - my boss and the woman that works for me have been so supportive during the process. I lean on my best friend occasionally - but in her rush to "protect" me, she tends to be a bit harsh at times so I don't always confide in her.

More and more I lean on the women on another adoption board that I post to everyday - they are an amazing sisterhood in this journey.

[watermelon0719]

I most definitely lean on my husband! He is my rock.

[blessedbybug]

Mostly a very small group of online friends who have lived most of this journey with me. And my DH, bless his heart, who is always ready with a comforting hug. Like you, I seem to live in the most fertile community of the planet and have the most fertile sibs and ILs ever... ((((hugs))) to you...

[hotspice58]

I lean on a friend at work. Definitely not mom!! Every time she sees a baby, she feels this need to have me look at it. Nothing against babies, but I don't need someone to point them out to me.