[frida_94601]

hello,

just wanted to know how your children reacted when you brought your child home? where their fights? was thier attention seeking? I am in the process of foster adoption through CA. I am waiting to be matched. I ahve a bio child who is 11yrs old. I am considering adopting from the following ages 3-11yrs old. Would love to hear from anyone if possible.

Thanks in advance

[starsnstripes1]

Lillian - I have an 8yr old daughter and 7 yr old son. We just adopted a 4yr old boy. The children were very excited at the prospect of having a sibling.

The reality was a little less idea. We had a "honeymoon" of about a week before the older children decided the little one got too much attention. It took my daughter about 3 days of pouting to realize she really liked being the oldest and she started petitioning for a little sister.

My older son has had a much harder go of it. He's had the baby spot in the family taken away from him. He says he feels left out, but is also the one who spends the most time with our new son. They play together for hours on end. It seems to be only at night when our new toddler has some bedtime issues that our son feels jealous.

We've been home with Nick for about 2 months now, and every day is better than the previous. I would say we never really had any terrible times, but there were days when I knew my older son really needed some special attention.

All in all it has been a very smooth transition, and it's been delightful to watch all 3 children learn to love eacchother. Nick (the toddler) goes to a special school, so the big kids beat him home each day. He rushes in and has to give both of them big kisses before he will even take his shoes off. Then they all tear off for the backyard to ride their bikes.

Next time we will definitly be looking for an older child right from the start!