[KaydensMama]

My fiancee had an issues about a year ago where he spent a night in jail because of not registering his car and no insurance and haden't changed his lic to his new state yet. He had moved across country and got a beater car to get him back and forth to work and haden't yet got things all set up. well they arrested him and spent some time in jail. IS this going to make it so we can't adopt later on? He's not a bad guy just haden't gotten settled yet and a judge and cop who didn't care about the situation.

I am hurt by finding this out and need to know if this will hender our international adoption plans. I am also adopting his son who i have raised since birth, but have been told that this wont be effected since they would look at it as a good thing since i am completely free of any trouble, and he would to if that haden't happened.

HELP please email me plongwell@cfl.rr.com

[IrishBluz]

I don't know what the polocies are for international, but I know that for domestic, it depends how this situation was clasified. You should talk to your social worker and see what they have to say. I think what they are looking at is that he does not have history of being a violent felon. Don't get too worried just yet....honesty is the best so talk to your agency/sw now and let them know. They'll help you through. Best wishes as you continue on your adoption journey.

[randloar]

Pesonally, I don't think that your husbands record means adoption is not possible for you, but do know that for some countries (depending on what the offense was listed as) it could slow things down (or it could make you not want to go to that particular country). We are going to Kazakhstan, and my DH has a trespassing charge from over 17 years ago that has delayed our clearance for over 3 months now......we keep being told we will get through and just have to be patient (since it wasn't a "bad" offense), BUT it definately has affected our process time. We have had to submit all the paperwork for it, and write pleading letters to say that he learned from this and has moved on, etc........

If you go into it knowing these things, and get all your paperwork collected, and if he had to do any community service or anything to clear his name, document that and submit it as well (to show that he has "paid his dues"). And check with agencies about this when picking countries (ask more than one agency for each country you are interested in, you will get different answers), and maybe find a country that isnt' worried about petty records. Good luck and hang in there!!!

[taramayrn]

Not an adoptive parent, but I would imagine that it would be best to contact the agency you are interested in working with.

[Becky01089]

This shouldn't affect your adoption plans. It will have to be explained by him, what he learned from it, etc. and he'll have to get court documents of his case, etc. We were in a similar situation and looking to adopt from China. Our agency had approved us and felt satisfied that we would be good parents. There is never any guarantee that an International country will approve you but if you have the agency backing you up, things should work out ok.
Good Luck