[Springtime]

My husband and I are getting started with the adoption process. We want to adopt internationally and the agency gave us a motivation to adopt questionaire.

Is it okay to not be sure of the answers?

Example: How do you feel about becoming multicultural?
Well..we have biological children that are biracial, as my husband and I are from different races..and my husband just immigrated to the US 5 years ago, so we are multicultural as well. We don't think much of it...it's just what we are already.

How will you deal with racial comments made to your family in the future?
What if I don't know? I would of course explain to my kids that their skin color/race has nothing to do with their value and they should be proud of their heritage and so on. But really, I don't know what I'm going to say or do!

Is it okay to not be sure of the answers? What are they looking for? What is a "bad" answer?

[randloar]

Congrats on getting started on the adoption process!! Although we weren't asked those specific questions during our homestudy, I think that your answers are a good start to addressing the questions they asked!

First off, we had trouble with some questions that we felt were too vague and that the answer really depended on the actual situation (guess we are too literal). So, we struggled with some of these types of questions because you won't know for sure until you are there, BUT, your answers you have started show that you are aware of the potential for those issues to arise, and that you will address these things and not pretend that they don't exist. I personally think that they want to see your awareness of these issues and be thinking toward solutions, not knowing the right answers yet. Just throwing that out there!!

[LisaCA]

hi,

the nice thing about this paperwork is that it gets you thinking. it's okay to not have all the answers, but you should be thinking about them. if you're not sure but have some thoughts, write that down.

imho, a bad answer is something like "race doesn't matter". of course it matters here in the us and elsewhere. it would be great if it didn't , but it does. I think they just want to see that you know there will be issues and you'll have to deal with them.

good luck!

Lisa

[Springtime]

Randloar and Lisa,
Thank you so much for your responses!! I feel better now!

[knudsons]

Example: How do you feel about becoming multicultural?
We do know view such a thing as race in our home but culture is a whole different thing. We choose to expose all of our children to as many cultures as possible no matter there's and to fully embrace their own to their fullest abilties.
How will you deal with racial comments made to your family in the future?
Walk away and ignore would be the main thing and teach my children to be proud of who they are no matter if they are purple with orange dots or black or white. I intend on prepping and preparing my children because although they will not get this in their hometown they will have to deal with racism and racial profiling some day.

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