[Humbysgirl]

We've been given a tremendous opportunity to privately adopt a baby boy. We have met with an attorney and after giving it much thought, we called and asked his office to represent us. Flash forward one week: I spoke to him once last week, and have tried to reach him, without success. His secretary keeps taking the messages, assures me that they are waiting to hear back from Social Services, etc.. She also said that he and his partner would be calling us today (which they haven't.) I'm am extremely upset and I don't know if we're in the adoption process or not. I don't know where to turn, and if I should start looking for another attorney. We only have two weeks until the baby's birth. Any responses are most welcome.

[AwaitingBeloved]

Hi Humbysgirl,
Congratulations on your potential match! How exciting for you.

I would say, since you are in a pinch for time, it wouldn't hurt to call around to other adoption attorneys. I know I wouldn't be able to wait. Especially where the due date is so soon.

good luck!

[mcnh63]

I would at least call and talk to another attorney. It can't hurt and it may help a great deal

[rogotta]

Have they gotten in touch with you yet? I think that you should look for an attorney that makes you feel comfortable. You shouldn't have to be going through this. I used an attorney when I gave my daughter up for adoption and it went smoothly. He was a very wonderful, sensitive and warm man. It made the situation that much better.

[gregorysparents]

Of course this attorney is busy and your case is not the only one that he is handling - BUT - I agree with the others - you need to be dealing with an attorney that you feel comfortable with. My concern would be that you are a new client and already you don't feel comfortable with him and how he is not communicating with you.

I would look for another attorney. I would not release this attorney yet - just in case he really is working on your case. I would call the office back this morning and say something like:

"You know, I am not (whatever his name is) only client - but I just want some reassurance that my case is being handled very quickly and in the best possible way it can. This is very important to us and time is of the essence. I promise not to take more than a few moments of (name of attorney's) time - I just want to speak with him so HE can give me any updates that there might be. To make it easier on HIM - he can call me ANYTIME today - no matter how late it is."

Or something like that. Good luck.

Christina