[Hollygirl]

We had a great talk with the pbmom last night. She is really mature for her age and she seems to know what she wants for her life. She is going to get with us again soon so we can talk with her and the pbfather. We are so excited. She is due June 4, 2005

[LisaCA]

congrats on having a nice meeting! Being pregnant at 15 has got to be a very confusing time. dd's bmom was 15 when she gave birth to dd. she was also incredibly mature, but there were moments of teen-ness that peeked out (like the fact that she wanted to go to the waterpark after giving birth ). Her age has meant that we are probably closer to her parents than to her, but we're working really hard to establish an equally close relationship with her (teens are notoriously hard to talk to, as you may know.) Try and meet with her over the course of the next few months without her dad, see if you can develop a closer relationship.

dd's bmom did place (duh), but she did have moments of anxiety and rethinking (as you would expect). my facilitator told me that teens have a higher change-my-mind-I-want-to-parent rate than adults, but many do place. my feeling is that bmom placed because she wasn't ready to give up being a child-being pregnant meant she had a few moments of adulthood, and i don't think she liked it much. by placing she was able to remain a teen, and continue a teen/parent relationship with her parents. As she said the day she placed dd in our arms, "I need my mommy". she's a great woman who has many exciting things ahead of her.

and just to warn you, I'm a gemini and I was a bit of a pill to raise. Those june babies can be a handful, and then some!

congrats again,

Lisa