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Old 09-28-2005, 05:29 PM
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I am afraid of being rejected for adoption-help!

I have a history of DUI with fleeing police 6 years ago. I did not mean to flee it was a cause of the drinking. I am so upset as I do not drink usually and that night was over a seperation from my husband. We have gone through counseling. What do you think my chances are for adopting internationally from china or korea? Any info would be appreciated. thank you! D
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Old 09-28-2005, 07:19 PM
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Hi Denise,

I really couldn't tell you....as we are adopting domestically. I would contact your adoption agency.....
not much help, but an agency is going to know a lot more.....
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Old 09-29-2005, 12:40 PM
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Full disclosure with your agency/social worker right away. Tell them what you did and what you learned from it so it can never happen again. Don't blame the alcohol, blame the person who drank it. We all make mistakes. Will an agency or country official keep you from adopting because of it? I doubt it, but maybe. The thing is you can't live your life afraid they'll find out (and they will).
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The only advice I would give is to be completely honest with the agency you choose about what happened and most of all, to take responsibility for your actions. That goes a long way into showing remorse and that it is not a behavior easily repeated. I did not know the criteria for the countries you mentioned regarding police records.
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Denise,
You can explain what happened, tell what you had to do after (AA meeting/pay fine, etc) and as long as it was a first and only offense, I think you'll be okay. The caseworker will probably ask for details. Just be open about it.

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Old 09-30-2005, 05:40 PM
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Hey--

given that it happened several years ago and if you took corrective action (e.g., counseling), I imagine you have a good shot.

We're adopting domestically; however, we began this adoption process by researching Chinese adoptions and talking with lots of agencies.

If you haven't done so, post on the International/China forum.

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Old 10-02-2005, 04:42 PM
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Hi,
You will HAVE to be honest with your social worker during your homestudy. Your complete homestudy is sent to immigration with your I-600A (Advance petition of an orphan). They run a fingerprint check, and they will reject your application if you did not disclose this information. I'm not trying to scare you. You might still qualify IF you are completely honest and upfront about what you have done since this incident (counseling, AA, whatever you did).

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Old 10-07-2005, 08:56 PM
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It should not have any effect because it happened several years ago. They usually only look at the most current events. Don't worry.
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