[allysmum]

Hi all,
Newbie here from MA. Just found out I am not able to have any more children. I have a wonderful, beautiful 8 year old girl. She wants a brother or sister! We really want to have another child.
They gave me 2 options, get donor eggs, or Adopt. The donor eggs only give me a 50% chance of getting pregnant. I have heard alot of negative stories about donor eggs.
Anyone who can give me some pro's and con's of either subject would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks so much for the support!! Will post more tonight, daughter needs to go to gymnastics.

Shirley

[sherryk]

Hi Shirley!

I can really only answer from the adoption point of view since I've never received donor eggs. Adoption is awesome! It definitely is a roller coaster ride as there is no due date as you wait to be matched. There are many things to consider on your adoption journey, for example, which type of adoption, what your family can handle (physical, mental, developmental delays), drug exposure, what race you are open to, ect.

I have three biological children and one adopted daughter. It was an amazing experience - still is. She is such a blessing to our family.

I wish you the best in your decision making!

BLESSINGS,
sherryk
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[NDN]

I assume that you, unlike many people, are not bound by religious restrictions on IVF or you wouldn't be considering it. So I'll move on to my second point [I have a few standard responses to this question.]

How will it affect the child, and your bio daughter, to be only biologically related to one of you. Unlike step-family situations, this child would be produced without a relationship between the two parties. This may or may not be an issue in your situation, but you shoudl definately consider it.

Personally, I prefer the idea of adoption to IVF, donors, and surrogacy. There are a lot of children out there, and a lot of bmothers looking for the right family to place their child with.