[mckenna]

i love to read about all the adoption success stories and the "expecting" in dec/jan. however, i have just completed my home study which should be officially ready next week, when i will join the ranks of waiting to be mathced. with the new year i would think there are others of you out there who have also just completed thier home study. hope we can all chat and keep each other busy during the wiat.



i am a single adoptive parent to a wonderful almost 4 year old (where did the time go??) boy who i adopted throught the foster care system. he was placed with me at 4 months old. i am now going through a private agency to adopt a new born, either sex, any race.

now, who else is out there?

[ermiller]

I'm not waiting -which you know- but I wanted to say "there you are!" I've missed you on the Canadian thread

How great that you have your homestudy done now! I hope your wait is short!

Erin

[AMom2Two]

(((McKenna)))

YEAH, I am so happy to see this!!! Congratulations on soon becoming a "Waiting to Be Matched" member LOL I can't wait to follow your story! Are you hoping for another boy or possibly a girl this time? I can't believe how different they both are! I love having one of each. Are you still doing Foster to Adopt?

Wishing you a heartful of best wishes.
Hugs,

[mckenna]

hi erin, glad to see you too, hope your little one is feeling better.

amom, i really don't care if the baby is a boy or girl, most of the time, i just asume it is going to be a boy (guess cuz that is what i am used to), but tommy only talks about a sister. we are taking a break from fostering, after losing lily to birth relatives that are not the best placement (in my opinion) and bmom having another baby that the state is allowing her to have even though her first 3 children are no longer in her custody, i have sort of lost faith in the system. my license is still current but i am not taking any children for now. i saw the most recent pic you posted of your little one, he is going to pass your daughter up in a couple of months. they are going to be in the same size clothes before you know it.

[megsmom]

Hi-
I too love reading the happy stories there are in adoption its great!

We also have a 4 year old daughter that was adopted at birth and we have a great adoption with her entire birth family

About 8 months ago we started trying for our 2nd time- we have our web site out there and tell everyone we hope to adopt and run ads and all kinds of stuff.

Hopefully soon that special birth mom and baby will come into our lives but for now we are here with you waiting to be matched

[mckenna]

hi shannon,

8 months huh? are you using an attorney or an agency? what have you been doing to keep busy during the wait. during the home study process, i was kept busy by all the paper work and it was the holidays, but now, i know i am going to get antsy. i keep saying i really would like the baby to come after my son's bday which is in may, but still, i am beginning to feel like i am going to need something to focus my extra "baby" energies on.

how have you been preparing your daughter. it is tough, cuz you just don't know. i have not told my son much.

[awaitingagirl]

Hello fellow waiters...

I was looking through all the threads to see which would catch my eye and you guys did!
I am currently with an agency since end of december (not long) with a website/profile. Now we just wait for a call if a ** selects us. It is very nerve wracking. I am kept busy by my bio sons, 4+2 but still I think no matter how much you have going on, you still think about it often
I try not to and just pretend that it doesnt bother me (the wait) and know that the phone will ring when I least expect it or in the middle of the night when I dont hear it! lol...probably wont happen that way but you know!
Seems like most of you have done this before through the state and/or private. This is my first adoption. I hope it goes smoothly, I see all the scares left on a lot of the parents out here from things gone bad or failed and I dont want that to happen to me.
So, Im out here with you!
Aaron (female)

[westernmom]

It's only been 10 days since our homestudy was finished and approved and the wait is driving me crazy. It's nice to know there are fellow waiters out there. I'm trying to keep busy - I'm currently stenciling the ceiling in the family room. I'm on the edge of insanity, I think.

This adoption is our first adoption also, so, I am apprehensive as well. My dh & I are adopting from foster care, 1, 2, or 3 children (when I say 3 my dh groans) aged 0-10 years. We are open to sex, although our 13 yo bson says "boys only."

I, too, am very interested in what people are doing during the wait. I have to limit my time on the boards or I'd be here all the time, which would make me obsess more.

Glad there's a club for us.

Jennifer

[Support2Adopt]

Hi!
I'm JJ, your board host and although I'm not in the process of adopting, I have been there four times.
When I was waiting, I became a clean freak. It didn't matter if the house was clean or not. I just cleaned, cleaned and cleaned!
It is so unnerving to have to wait for the phone to ring and hope that you get "the call."
Anyway, just want to wish everyone the best of luck in their upcoming adoptions.
JJ

[kllee4]

Hi! We've been officially waiting for seven months and there are times when it bothers me and then there are times when I have been so busy that I barely have time to dwell on it (as in the holidays). I have been cleaning as well as trying to organize the house more efficiently (thinking that the house should be running even more efficiently once a little one joins us). I am kept pretty busy with our 4 bio sons (aged 8 through 15) and am now working from home doing licensed childcare. So I am very busy during the day so this has helped me some. I was a little saddened when I ran out of wipes in my daycare and had one of my sons grab a new box from our "little ones" room that we are waiting for and they were beginning to become dried out (they were purchased about 8 months ago).

I am keeping busy and trying to stay optimistic. Good luck to everyone on this journey. kllee

[mckenna]

good morning fellow waiters.

aaron, even though i have done this before, going through a private agency is so different. i had originally gone into foster care only wanting to provide a temporary home to children in need, i say i have the only "unplanned adoption." not that there is not stress involved in state adoption it is just different stress, there really was no waiting for me, i already had my son, it was just the worry about whether or not he would be staying. has your agency given you any time frames?

jennifer, that is so exciting that you may have 3 children soon. my friend adopted 3 children on the same day but only two were biologically related. by the time they were finally adopted, they were, 3,5,&8 but were placed with my friend at 6months, 2 & 6. can't wait to hear more about your journey.

jj, 4 x's where they all private adoptions, how old are your kids now?

klee, i have talked with you on other threads, i think. are you trying to adopt a girl? what do your kids think of the whole process?

i have decided i am going to get my son's room painted. we moved to a new house almost 2 years ago, but at the time i had a 2y/o and almost 1 year old, so there was no time to decorate. i am telling my self that i can start on the nursery once tommy's room is done.

have a nice day

[kllee4]

Hi, Mckenna!

Yes, we are waiting for an AA baby girl. My oldest son has wanted a baby sister after his baby brother (#2) was born. Each time we brought home a boy (#3 and #4) he was a little disappointed and even wanted to make a trade! HEE HEE They are all excited and her room is all done and ready! They were even interviewed by our caseworker and she was amazed at how close they are and by how much they really want t a baby sister. They are now spoiling the kids in my daycare so this is wonderful practice for them. We have had 2 failed matches in which the moms decided to parent and a 3rd potential match that we turned down due to severe medical issues already diagnosed in utero. We are trying to patiently wait but our homestudy expires in June and we are researching other agencies. We thought about foster to adopt but, unfortunately, since I am licensed to do childcare in Maryland, you are not allowed to also carry a foster care license due to their dual licensure laws.

Have a good day everyone!

[mckenna]

oh klee, you are definatly going to have a princess on your hands! is her room all pink?? disney sells a sweatshirt that says "princess in training" i am going to get it for my niece. when my sister was younger we used to call her princess, cuz that is what she acted like and her daughter is already starting (at 6 months old) to be just like her. i think your little one will need one too. that is great that the boys are excited. sorry to hear about your two failed matches, had you been at the hospital with either one? that is my biggest fear, knowing about the child and actually holding her are two different things to me. all though both would be tough. i am kind of hoping i will have one of those, come pick your baby up adoptions, lol!

[uneek_qt]

I haven't been waiting long (December 04)and classes will keep me busy until April (will graduate from Graduate school) It has mentally worked out for me but caller ID has become my enemy. I have received three calls from people with the same last name as my adoption coordinator, none being her. What is that all about? :O) That has driven me CRAZY!!! I have realized that I am getting more anxious as time passes. I don't post much on the forums but when I came across this forum I thought I would share my waiting to be matched woes as well. I see that joyful light at the end of this journey but the reach seems so far away! My joy comes in knowing that it WILL happen. Best Wishes to all!!!!

[kllee4]

McKenna,

Yes, her room is really cute! I chose lavender and the theme is sort of "Nature". I still have stenciling to do on the wall as a border. I think I'm going to do the Spiritual Fruits of the Spirit and intertwine the words with green ivy (Love, Joy, Peace, etc.). There are also butterflies on the walls, the crib bedding, the curtains, the changing table, that are in pastels of pinks, yellows, and soft greens.

I love the "Princess in Training" shirt! I'm going to have to check that out! LOL

As far as our 2 failed placements, we were invited to be at the hospital with the 1st mom and we got a call that she had changed her mind. I think it was best that we weren't there because I think that would have been much, much harder. I took it kind of hard and then bounced back after I realized that it was probably for the best and happy that she could parent after all. I guarded my heart with the second match and asked that they not call us "too soon". As I suspected after not hearing something for some time, we got the call that she had also wanted to care for her daughter (her 4th) although we were told that she still had reservations and may still decide later if it is too much. We are willing to have her palced with us if she has second thoughts about parenting and we wish her the best and pray for her either way. That was last month.

I love the idea of getting the call to come and get her as well! LOL