[kimJohn]

Hi! I am a return visitor to this site. My husband and I finished our homestudy in 7/04 and are still waiting to match. So far we have had 2 failed leads. I know every case is different but any idea what the average time is between homestudy and match. We are working with a local agency for a caucasian newborn adoption. Any advice would be appreciated. Also any words of wisdom in making this time pass quicker?

[Jmuckey]

Hello...

My husband and I completed are homestudy in June 04 and have been waiting since. The upcoming holidays have been hard and we just found out this week that two of our best friend "couples" are pregnant and due in July. It's hard and to be honest sucks...hearing repeatedly that there is "no set time" to wait. It would be nice to develop some sort of support while waiting..our agency has monthly meetings, but they are more educational (ie: child development, legal, etc.) than "couple's support". Maybe we can start something on this forum.

[adoptivefamily]

Hello!

I want you both to know that the waiting is the hardest part. My wife and I have been waiting for 2 years. We have been close twice and one of those we were even at the hospital with the birthmother. Your relationships need to be strong and I am sure for all of us that someday we will be loving and happy parents.



J.

[Jmuckey]

Can anyone tell me what ''banned" means from above response?

[tobeafamily]

It means that user may no longer post to the forums.

As to wait, I'm not sure there's an 'average'. Most domestic parental placement adoptions happen within a year of starting your search. Are you networking alongside your agency's efforts?

Regina

[JewelMarie]

Mine was about 10 months. It was a long wait, but it allowed me time to grow personally and get a number of things ready.

[cathy102]

Our first adoption with Lexi took 9 1/2 months and with Sean's it took less than 2 months. If you are waiting for a Caucasian baby, the wait could take longer. My daughter is Multi-Racial and my son was supposed to be Bi-Racial but was born full Caucasian (Blonde hair and blue eyes)

I hope your wait won't take long..

[bumpkin]

The wait for our first son was 9 months, it was a domestic newborn adoption .... we then applied again for another child with a different agency and waited about 1 1/2 years with no prospects and decided to look into adopting through out states social service department. The day they updated our homestudy we got a call from our adoption worker about our twins who then came home to us 2 weeks later - they were 6 months old at the time. You just never know.... who would have thought we would have these 2 beauties especially finding out the day of our homestudy.

Good luck with the wait.

Bumpkin