[Kimme662]

My husband and I are in the process of adopting baby #2. Our son was adopted at birth and turned 2 in May. I just found this board and am excited to know there are others out there waiting on another miracle. Don't you think the wait for the second one is harder? At least I do. I am so impatient and I was not with the first one!! I just need to keep reminding myself that God has a plan and will guide our new son or daughter to us when the time is right.

[Linny]

Yep, I think it's harder......and I don't think it EVER gets any 'less harder' to wait for our children. (We've adopted seven.)
Our last baby came to us just a few months ago; and it was the longest wait we've ever encountered (18 months). I thought...even in my late forties, that I'd go crazy!!!!!
Hang in there......you're right, God DOES have a plan...and He will lead you to your baby. I can stand in proof of that!

Most sincerely,

Linny

[Kimme662]

Linny:

Thanks for the words of encouragement! WOW....seven adoptions. That is fantastic!!!

[cathy102]

The first one was the hardest for me. It took 11 months to have our daughter home with us. As soon as she turned 1, we signed up with a great Agency in FL. I wasn't nervous or worried at all. I just knew for some reason that our second adoption would happen fast. We got matched 1 month and 3 days after being with the Agency and went to get him 6 weeks later..

Just try and enjoy your little one while you have them because with 2, the oldest doesn't get all the attention any more. But I love having both kids. They are 15 months apart..

Are you signed up with anyone yet?

Good luck and try to relax, it will happen when the time is right..

Hugs,

Cathy

[Kimme662]

Cathy:

Yes, we are using the same agency in Texas we used for our son's adoption. Actually, the first time around went FAST. We had oriention on January 17, 2002 and Andrew was born May 17, 2002, exactly 4 months later. I think I'm feeling antsy with this one because with my son, I did not have an image of a baby since I had never been pregnant and we did not have any children. Now, I know there is a baby out there for us and I just want him/her in my arms in our house!!!! We started our paperwork in March of this year and had our home study in April. We had been chosen by a birthmother in May but she changed her mind as we were on the way to Houston to pick up the baby. I was crushed! I told our social worker it was like I had a miscarriage. I know that God did not intend for that little girl to be our baby though and there is another angel out there waiting for us!!!

Have a great day and thanks for the support!!!

[mroot]

Hi out there! My husband and I just finished our paperwork for adoption #2. Since we didn't keep our homestudy current we have to go through the whole process again, which means an evening of training and orientation and the homestudy is yet to come. Our son turned 2 in February and I really think 3 years apart is a good age span. Of those of you out there who have already adopted for a second time, how long was your wait for the second one? Shorter or longer than the first? Just curious! So far, I think this wait will be easier because we were so anxious for the first one. I definitely feel a lot more relaxed this time and less anxious. I guess we are taking the attitude that if it is meant to be, what a blessing, if not, at least we have our precious boy! I would like to know your thoughts out there!

[KDW]

Hi,
This is my first reply, I am new at this.
I feel very anxious waiting for our second child.
We have been on the waiting list since march of this year.
We were only on the list for 1 week, when we were chosen
to adopt our son. I do feel when God is ready he will send us our next child, but it is so hard. I thought this time would be a little easier. Do you feel birthmothers tend to choose childless couples first? I am so happy to hear others expirience this too.

Thanks for listening
KDW

[Kimme662]

KDW -

I'm with you...I'm a lot more anxious this time around. We are at the 5 month mark today. I'm keeping my fingers and toes crossed the phone will ring and we'll hear those wonderful words "I have good news for you."

God has the right baby out there for all of us and when that angel is ready, he or she will find their way home. In the meantime, I'm going to take up every hobby known to man to keep myself busy and my mind occupied. Yea, right, I have a 2 year old, like I have time for a hobby!!

Kim

[TRP]

Just wanted to say that it also seems to be harder the second time around. I think the knowledge of knowing how precious raising a child is makes it seem more difficult. Also, we are all moms now...this is our "profession" so there aren't a whole lot of things that keep our minds off of being a parent and having a baby . Before I had a career that didn't involve building a family ect...so at least I had to think about other things during the day. Now I just meditate on it day and night . Also, I know how fast the process could go and how long it could take. I think that adds to the anxiety. Whereas the first time around I was kind of clueless as to how the whole adoption thing worked and how long it would take. Anyway....I empathize and agree with all or your statements.

[cathy102]

I am just saying a prayer for all of you that are waiting for your second child.. We got matched so fast, so the wait wasn't hard for us..

Cathy

[mallow]

Hi. I am new to this forum. I'm 33, have an approved home study, and am currently fostering a wonderful 6 year-old boy.
Becky

[davinok]

Just wanted everyone to know that we have been waiting for 1 week now for number too. It seems very unreal and at the same time surprising each day that we don't get a call

[mroot]

Ok - I am starting to get nervous! I was so relaxed a few weeks ago! Our homestudy is going to be scheduled soon and I guess that is what did it! I probably won't be able to contain myself once the homestudy is complete and we are truly waiting for the match!

[Linny]

Like I said, I don't think it really gets any easier! Of our seven kids.....four have been infant adoptions (two were overseas). All four of the babies were already born...and this has always been a 'lifesaver' for us...because I just don't love the aspect of 'waiting to see'.......(called, 'impatience'......I know!).

Our babies were all 'there' waiting for us..........and so when we got the word, it was only a day or a few weeks/months before we were holding them in our arms. But, at least we 'knew' they were already going to be ours!
Best of luck to all of you. The waiting is the hardest part, I believe, and few people on this planet understand how that part takes the 'heart and soul' out of us adoptive mommas!

Most sincerely,

Linny

[mary112233]

We have adopted 5 times.Our first one was very fast. Our HS was done the end of May and we got Joey 6/5. The second one took much longer. Each day seemed like a month. I hated to see friday afternoon come because it ment no calls till monday.But the day finally came and you know what ..........once we saw her it was like it never happened. All the months of waiting were forgotten the first time I laid eyes on her.
Mary