[sherryk]

I recently read a great article in Adoptive Families magazine regarding grandparents role in adoption. It is exciting to share with grandparents the experience of the process of adoption and have them be involved as much as they can. My parents were involved via the telephone and encouraging us along the way. Unfortunately, my hubby's parents weren't told of the upcoming adoption until we were matched for a variety of reasons (they are absolutely in love with our daughter now!)

How about you? How involved are the grandparents in your process of adoption?

Blessings,
sherryk
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[sherryk]

Anyone have active grandparents in their upcoming adoption?

Would love to hear responses!

Blessings,
sherryk

[gbfan]

My parents have been incredible during our adoption journey. I am an adoptee, so they can really relate to what we are going through (although adoption was a lot different 30 years ago).

We were matched in April and T is due in July. When we were matched, we immediately told my parents and they both just started sobbing -they were so happy. This will be their first grandchild and they cannot wait - they even have a count down to the due date posted on their refridgerator.

They are a little worried, however, since T is due July 14 and they leave for an Alaskan cruise July 16th. Of course, the cruise was booked long before we were matched. They will be heartbroken if they don't get to meet their granddaughter before they leave. In fact, they are considering canceling the trip. I keep telling them that they have years to spend with her.

My dad is especially excited. He found out in December 03 that he had prostate cancer. He was so afraid he would never be a grandpa. He has since got treatment for the cancer and is just estatic that he will get to hear himself called "grandpa"!

My mom has gone a bit crazy on the newborn shopping. My dh keeps joking that we won't even have to use diapers - she's got so many outfits -we can just toss them as they are soiled.

Anyway...that's my grandparents story. I couldn't have asked for better, more supportive parents!

[punchkin]

I have to admit, my parents are awesome. DH parents are both deceased. So my parents have taken him under their wing. Sometimes i think they perfer him to me. [hahaha]. My parents went to our classes with us, asked plenty of questions,and to say they are happy for us is an understatment. The day A was placed with us we all cried. Everyday my mom has to come over to see and talk to A. She rocks her, sings to her,talks to her about the love Of Jesus. On the days that my father can't come he calls her on the phone to tell her grampy loves her. the last of the great-grandparents died in JAN,04,but not before spoiling A. Big mommy [my grandmother] bought A her first doll. i have it put up for safe keeping until she is older so i can tell her just how much her great granny loved her, and i have many pictures too prove it.
Not only are we adopting, but my sister as well, this will be her 3rd. So as you can imagine our parents are beside themselves. my father went out and bought A [8 months] a barbie jeep. lol. it will be at least 2 years if not more before she can ride it. My mom offers to take her to doctors appt'd, walking, shopping, anything to get her out so she can brag a little [ok, alot]. my parents have always been our rocks, solid and unmoveable. i'm so glad that the Lord has allowed them to bless as well as enrich our childrens lives. our kids couldn't ask for better GP's, nor i better parents.

[aspenhall]

For years my parents have been not so subtley pushing us toward adoption (open EVEN!!!) My in-laws cornered me once while visiting last year and my soft spoken and VERY non interfereing in-laws tried to hard sell me on the idea of adopting. I was all I could do to come up with valid reasons why we wouldn't. they finally made me promise to at least look into it. and I came up with a good diversion and delay to give us time to get a placement. I told them that we promised that if we weren't pg by the time I was 30, that we'd seriously pursue adoption.

WHAT THEY DIDN'T KNOW......and still DON'T .....is that we were ALREADY in the process!!!!!!!!.....

We don't plan on telling any family until a baby is actually placed in our home. It would hurt to bad to announce something and then have to take it back. I live in a very small town and news travels. ...so it really could be a year later and I'd still be explaining to people that it fell through. Too rough on my emotions. Only my closest friends know and people who have NO contact at all with my family and don't even know who they are.

If I thought they weren't supportive of adoption, then I would probably tell them sooner and attempt to educate them.

[mlbsands]

My parents and my mother in law are all very supportive and very excited about our upcoming adotion.. they have all also been there for us when we have had failed adoptions...

My father in law and step mother in law.. well they could care less and don't see why we are "bothering" to adopt.. this is especially disturbing since they have an adopted son!!!! but oh well.. thier loss.. )

my mom went out with me to meet "J" and she is going to join us for the birth and the first few days afterward..

and yes.. she is buying stuff left and right... )

My mom was not always open to adoption (I did not share a lot about our infertility issues, so it kind of came "out of the blue".. now that they understand more.. they have become usper supportive..)..

Mandy